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I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors?

Sometimes, sometimes not. I don't think his bachelor status is the main issue (even if possibly an issue).
A person that really cares about you is not distant. I'm generally antisocial in person, but with my fiance I am about the most affectionate thing in the world.
Of course you feel a strong connection to him, a "mature" man has given you personal and private attention. You are not alone and this is perfectly natural.
While the age gap isn't complimentary, I'm concerned more about the fact he had sex with you on the second meeting. Regardless of how kind he is, that was just irresponsible and likely the reason he's cool towards you. I bet it'll be hard, but the best thing you can do is accept what happened as a mistake to learn by. Next time an older guy, or any guy, is interested in you, take it slow. If they can't wait for you, they're not worth it, no matter how kind or lovable otherwise.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. Painful, but, I'm afraid, true.
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