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Q: My mom is friend's with this lady [40] who is gay. You wouldn't think she was but she told me. Well, I go to work with the lady and when i [13] sleep over we sleep in the same bed because i dont like sleeping on the couch. Does that make me gay because i've heard if you sleep with a gay person thas makes you gay? 13/f .. [ i dont think it is true ]

and are you born gay?
Homosexualism is not a disease. It is not "rubbed off" onto another person.


I do not know if someone is born gay. There has been a theory around about parents wanting a particular sex of child, and having the opposite. Supposedly, this could cause the child to think and act as the sex of what the parent initially wanted. I do not know if there is any truth to this, or what kind of research has been done to test this theory.

Also, please consider this: Why a 40 year-old woman tell a 13 year-old she is gay, but not your mother who is her friend?

At your age, I do think you should be cautious though, even if it is your choice to sleep in the same bed as this woman. You are starting to mature, so more responsibility is needed of you on your decision making. If this person should make any sexual advantages towards you, inform your mother or another adult that you trust. Remember, sexual explotation of children and teens is a serious matter. You will be believed.

Ms Ask Me


my mother knows .. and this lady wouldnt do that because she is my one go-to adult.

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