Member Since: August 17, 2005
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Last Update: December 8, 2005
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All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.) (link)
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Lamma - o geez, this is a problem! Well let me say that first off, there is no way that this guy is worth your time, NOT AT ALL. My mom in fact was verbally and physically abused before she met my dad, but she kept going back to this guy!! A couple of years ago i asked her what in the hell could've made her to back to someone that treated her so bad and she said it was because she had a low self esteem, and she thought that he was the only guy that would ever love her. Now, i am NOT accusing you of having a low self-esteem, but if you do that might be the reason. Just from what i read in your question this guy seems to be an inconsiderate DICK. and he obviously is only interested in getting some. You deserve a much better guy, and hes out there. In the meantime, to get over him, pencil in some major you time. try something new, volunteer, have a friday night game night with your friends each week, WHATEVER it takes you keep your mind off this guy! and along the way, you might meet the special someone that is the entire opposite of your ex, and right for you!
really hope i helped, and feel free to ask another q in the future!
GOod Luck,
Lamma
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Aww, oh my goodness thank you so, so, SO much, your advice was AMAZING, but you're right... I DO have a low self-esteem. It's funny how you knew that just from reading my question. Thank you again.
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