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i am a girl and my brother is 2 years younger and we always get in fights. ALWAYS. its getting annoying now cause we fight about EVERYTHING. we also in general annoy eachother like if we are in the car and he pinches me so i will hit him. and yeah we like REALLY HURT eachother. so i want this to stop... please try to help and if you do i will rate you a 5!! (link)
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I had the exact same problem as you - my brother is two years younger as well and we used to fight *all the time*. It just got better a few years ago because I finally started using this tactic - I told him I loved him. I didn't say it out loud at first, coz as any older sister knows, younger bros are notorious for twisting your words around. I just started showing him that I was his older sister and I loved him. Like, if he pinched me, no matter how much it hurt. I'd ignore him. If it got really bad, I'd say something like, "If that the only way you can express yourself, I'm cool with that." I started showing him I loved him more, too, whereas before I hadn't. Like, if he was having trouble with homework or something, I'd offer to help. I smothered him with kindness. It worked. I wouldn't say he's an angel, but he realizes now that I'm not the enemy; I love him and we're more alike than different. Try to build a sense of partnership with your bro - after all, he's the only other person who really knows what it's like to be your parents' kid, living in your house etc. Don't fight violence with violence, that never works. Be the reasonable one; you're older after all. And here's a little bit of evolutionary trivia: DNA wise, you and your bro are more related than either of you are to your parents. So, he really is more like you than you can imagine. Good luck.
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