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Q: Hey,
You answered my question about my boyfriend starting to be wierd (not IMing, not calling etc.) & I noticed you said that you & your boyfriend have been together for 3 years. Well, I'm guessing that since your advice column says your 16, you guys have been together since you were 13 which is how old I am now. What are some tips in keeping a relationship strong for that long? Because I really love my boyfriend but we've only been together for a month & there has already been alot of "unsteadiness" like him being sort of weird.
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Yeaup, Matt and I have been together a little over three years now.. Ok, I guess I'll tell you what happened with me and Matt... lol.
- Be friends first.
- Be friends with his friends. They have more power than you might think.
- Let him make the moves (well, I did, anyway. The excitement of the chase, you know?)
- Scheme. Plot to be around him.
- Go out on dates. A lot.
- Talk on the phone, IM, wherever. Just talk.
- Don't become too obsessed with him.
- Take things slow... it's more exciting that way. (Matt and I haven't even made-out yet. Yeah. That slow.)
- Be nice, and a little forgiving, but never too much so..
- DON'T BE CLINGY! But, show him that you care.
- Don't try to be perfect. Just be confident.
- Flirt. Even if you're already together. It keeps the relationship a little more interesting.
- Express yourself. However you want to. (Exmp: Matt made me a CD with a bunch of love songs on it, sung by him. He's not a very good singer, but it's cute anyway.)
- Let him know you love him, sometimes.
- After a while, let him get to know your family.
- Get to know his family. (You'll learn things, trust me. Especially if he has a sister.)
- Don't take everything too seriously at first.
- Make him know what you want, and respect your morals.
Uhh.. lol, well, that's all I can really think of. I think it's kind of vague, but I'm pretty sure you get my point. I don't think it's really what you do in a relationship, just whether or not you're meant to be with that person (I'm corny enough to believe in destiny..)
As for the whole your boyfriend being weird, I'd probably just ask him about it.. oh yeah, honesty is really important. You be honest, he should be honest. Make a pact. I'm serious.
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Wow thanks so much! You helped alot! & I talked to him about it today & everything's fine. It was just a common misconception & me being paranoid. You really give amazing advice... keep it up. & I wish the best for you & Matt ♥
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Love hurts. That's why I'm here to explain to you exactly what your significant other (or hopefully significant other) means, truthfully and unfortunately painfully.
In other words, I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, unless I really believe it could happen.
If you don't believe me, well, I can give you proof. My way of thinking worked for me and my wonderful boyfriend of three years (I love you Matt!)
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Gender: Female Location: Maine Occupation: Waitress Age: 16 AIM: Member Since: August 7, 2005 Answers: 40 Last Update: January 2, 2006 Visitors: 4245
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