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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!
Get real. You said you don't even know this girl. To spend a week with this girl would obviously provide the opportunity to get to know her. So what you really need to find out is why you REALLY don't like this girl. Don't lie to yourself. Is it b/c of Sam. If so , don't hate on her. If it's not Sam, then you really should go. Besides the fact that Catherine will be there, you have a week at the beach. GO. There are NEW PEOPLE that you meet at the beach. GUYS YOU KNOW. So go. Get to know her or just forget her and have fun. But I really don't think that you're being fair. To Catherine. I think that you don't need to judge her , or dislike her, when you haven't taken the time of day to get to know her. I know you met her once may 2,3 times, but it's not the same. If you're going to pass judgement on somebody, know who they really are and that takes time. Lying to yourself about that person won't help you gain knowledge about who that person is. I think that others would give you the same courtesy as well. You know what I think so have a nice trip. That is if you go.
(Rating: 3) thanks for your advice, but i think you should know i am not upset at catherine & i do not dislike her. i am upset because sam did not mention this to me and all of a sudden she comes up with it & tells me a week before. i guess you wouldn't understand.