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Hi my name is Alex. Im 17 and going to be a Senior in high school. I am extremely outgoing and spirited. i love to laugh, smile, and have a great time. i am a huge sports fanatic. my friends tell me a lot cuz im a great listener as well as an advice giver, especially on love, family, and friends. hope my advice can affect you in some way :)

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Alright, I'm 16 and I have been dating my bf for about 2 and 1/2 weeks. Everything has been going pretty good. I feel like I've known him forever and we are falling head over heels for eachother. His family loves me and my family loves him. It's been perfect. But it seems that everytime we hang out little things bug me about him. Like his friends for example. Most of them play girls and he acts a little different around me when they are with him. Another thing I don't care for is that he can be pretty insensitive about my feelings and is pushy about things. He says and does things and doesn't think about how it might be taken the wrong way. Like yesterday my twin sister pissed him off so he kiddingly yelled at her and then when she said a sarcastic comment back he went over to her, turned her over, and started punching and slapping her ass real hard. And I found it extremely weird and inappropriate because whenever I think of someone grabbing, slapping, or punching someones ass its usually someone they are into, because he does the same thing when we play fight. So it totally disgusted and pissed me off. When he did that it made me offended and mad. My last bf would walk by girls at the mall when I was with him and smack their ass but I never said anything about how it annoyed and upset me because I figured that if I let out how I felt that it might screw things up. Even today we got in a sort of fight over the way things were going between us. As in how fast we were moving physically. It is always me who intiates these small skirmishes and that's what worries me. Most of the issues I have with him happen because I have been through alot of shit with guys in the past and I try to protect myself by not putting up with shit. I just don't want to be the person that fights about shit all the time and feels like an overreacter. But I know that if I keep things to myself that it will end up building up and building up and the issues will never get solved. So is there any way that I can relieve these issues without feeling like I might be causing my relationship to self-destruct?

if he does this stuff to bother you and your having doubts then you need to talk to him. if he gets mad. then its not a good relationship. if he cares for you then hell understand ... guys who flirt to much can become bad news if they dont think that what they are doing is bad. sit him down and tell him . if it doesnt go well then umm you kno what you can do ..

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, I will make sure to talk to him. I've already let him know that some things he does makes me upset and he has stopped doing them, but I do sort of expect him to be able to tell that certain things are just out of the question without me telling him to stop all the time. It makes me feel like I'm his mother or something. lol But I think I know what to do if things turn bad. If I need any more advice I'll note your inbox.
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