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Q: My Boyfriend and I were involved in a car accident friday afternoon... We are alright though. The car is totalled he hurt his shoulder and I hit my head.. but anyway.. I am terrified to ride with him.. or for that fact even drive. Since his car is totalled we've been driving my car and I've been driving. and hes like I'll drive.. and I tell him no that I Am.. I really trust him. I mean we've been together almost 11 months. and this really hurt him when I told him I was scared to drive.. and now he feels like I dont trust him anymore. and I don't know what to do to fix this. I even told him that I trusted him that he's just got to give me sometime to get over the accident that it just happened... What Can I Do?? :( Sorry This Is Soooo Long.

Hmmm.
I had a bike crash a few years ago and was in hospital for nearly 8 weeks.
I was right on a motorbike the day i came out of hospital, but i can't stand being a passenger, it's a control issue.
I think your boyfriend feels the need to prove to yourself and more important prove to himself that he is a good driver and is capable of driving again.
This may take some time to get over, as my crash was 3 years ago and even now i don't like not being in control of a bike.
I'm sure if you reassure him that the accident wasn't his fault or couldn't have been avoided he will eventually be fine.

Hope this helps.

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