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Four years ago I dated a really cool guy, he was all over me calling and going out for 4 months, then he just didn't show up for dinner one nite and we only spoke once briefly after that, he said he didn't need anyone worried about him. (He's a serious workaholic) but over the years i've run into him at a couple parties of mutual friends and just two weeks ago we ended up hanging out and i've been seeing him again since last, last sunday. He's being a doll and has picked up right where we left off! I'm pretty sure that, that is just his style - dates for 4-6 months then it's adios. I'm having fun, but trying to keep a step back, because it's inevitable that the same thing is going to happen. Do I just have fun for however long it lasts?
Bring up "the event." It doesn't have to be serious, but make it in person. He may just be afraid of commitment. Was there something specific that you may have said/done last time to scare him away (broguht up mariage, kids etc)? If he is vauge or wants to "keep the past where it belongs" explain that you were only concerned becuase you like him (at that point it is your risk on weather or not you want to stick around for six months. If you do then make it fun and not a heavy commitment so you don't get too attached to somone who might run away). However, his reaction should tell you enough about weather he is afraid of commitment or is just out to have a good time.
(Rating: 5) thank you for the good insight :)