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I'm 19 and in college... I'm the "I need advice" person with all my friends so I figured why not share the wealth?
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i am really having a hard time right now. my parents and i are always fighting.and im not gunna say its allt there fault but like i juss start screaming or they juss start screaming and i cant take it. there so much anger going on in my house. they just dont like me. i cant remember the last time they said "i love you" i cant talk to them about anything. i mean like we say hi and bye and stuff but thats about it. i dont get along with them and they dont get alng with me. i alway dont really have "friends". like sure there are people that i hang out with on the weekends and at school and stuff but i dont have friends like every one has where you can like cry on their sholuder and spill your heart out. not have friends has just put so much on my mind that i cant concentrate in school and my grade are slipping and then my parents scream more. also i have never had a boy friend and thats not that much of a big deal but it make me feel more unloved. i need someone to open up to. i have thought about killing my self many times. i even cut my self for a while but now i stopped. i cray my self to sleep EVERY singlt night. i need someone. i feel so lonely and deserted

im 13/f if that helps (link)
Just because your parents yell doesn't mean you are unloved... my parents yell at me, more so when I was your age then now, but I felt sooo terrible, finally I told my mom in a fit of tears all the yelling made me feel like I couldn't do anything right and made me feel like crap. You're at a frusterating age, a time when you want to fit in, yet stand on your own and conflicts happen... all you have to do is talk to your parents about how you feel, or tell them you think that you as a family should go talk to somone to work your problems out. As for friends, I can definetly relaite, don't worry about a boyfriend. I was 17 before I got my first and waiting till I found someone really worth my time was the best thing I ever did, sure I wanted one, I wanted to be "normal" but I finally asked myself "What was the point? 99.9% of the time you won't marry that person, you probably won't even be good friends after it's over, so why rush yourself into it..." I know it's hard to tell yourself that, but just keep doing it, you're not abnormal, if anything you'll learn from other people you see what a bad relationship is and when you get one it will be better and more meaningful than the pety ones your friends have. I never really had close friends at your age, till I got involved in horses. when I did that I met people I could really relate to, better than the few aquantences I hardly even had. You need to find something like that to do, build your friends off some activity you enjoy doing... like sports or anything? if you really feel so sad and hate yourself a lot of the time, don't be afraid to ask for proffessional help, you may have depression, a lot of people have it and it's very treatable, don't feel bad about having someone look into it, you shouldn't have to hate yourself, and don't feel unloved, because if you really were gone I know for a fact you would be missed a lot!


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thanks for the help but I CANNOT TALK TO THEM they will juss push me away




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