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well, i recently broke up with my boyfriend. before we broke up, we told each other that even if we did brake up, we still wanted to be friends. it has been almost a week since we broke up and the jerk won't even talk to me. i have tried talking to him, being as nice as i possibly can under the circumstances. what is up with this? is he taking time and wasting away what we could have or does he not want anything to do with me? thanks in advance.

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confused & ready to kill the dude

it hasn't even been a week, give the guy some time to heal. it looks like you're not entirely ready to be his friend yet either, considering you referred to him as "the jerk" and you said you were ready to kill him. if you keep forcing your frienship on him while he's still hurting, it will drive him away forever. but if you wait a month, or two months, or however long it takes for both of you to truely get over what you had and move on, then try to calmly rebuild your friendship. even then, you may not be able to be friends just because of your past relationship, but your best bet is to give him some room to breathe and try again later. time heals all! hope i helped

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