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I am completely obsessed with my friend. I moved to where I am now when I was 12, just before 7th grade (I'm now 15 and in 9th grade). There's this one pretty, athletic 'popular girl' that I saw and befreinded. We became friends, and I had her spend the night at my house and all- I also became friends with her best friend, and had both of them spend the night quite a few times. I thought everything was going good, but in January- it was then I noticed that neither of them had ever invited me to spend the night at their houses at all. They had never invited me to do anything, or ever called me. I thought in time they would. At camp that year, it was terrible. They had friends there they ignored me for. All of them would sit on Her bed, leaving me alone on my own. I tried to get them to notice me, sitting their alone, with no luck. When we were all setting up chairs of where to sit, they all got seats and didn't save me one, and I sat alone behind them, trying to blink back tears. The next year at camp was the worst so far. She and her friends ditched me worse than ever the intire time. It was a nightmare. Well, in late July, I confronted her on aim. It was terrible. I was all like YOU ALWAYS IGNORE ME AND I JUST GOT TIRED OF IT and she's all 'you should have told me'.anyhow, few months later i watched her and her best friend with some others walk off to go do something, while i watched trying HARD not to cry. its now like 6 months later, and i have new friends but all lyrics of every song i write is about her. every song i hear is about her. every day at school i think about her. every night at home i think about her. in everything i do, i think about her. i can't help it. i dream about her. i don't know what to do- i thought i was over her before, but i guess i'm not. i just want it all to be over.

I guess I'm so obsessed with all the pain she caused me because I've never had a boyfriend and so I've never had my heart broken. But she, she taught me how to bleed. I think about her more than any other person. I even dream about her, I dream that we're friends, best friends, and she laughs with me and throws her arms around me...

I just can't take it anymore... How can I get over this? How can I make it STOP?

maybe you should try and get out of state. if you can't do that then go somewhere where she won't be. i know this will pass over. if nothing works then i have a question, is there anything you left unsaid? if there was something that was unsaid then maybe your mind is trying to tell you to say it. you left this infinished which means you have unfinished business to attend to. so get talking

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, for some reason I think you are right. I think I might have something I wanted to say to her- I wanted her to know how angry I had been with her. Maybe that's why I keep writing songs about how angry I am about her, because the songs are written with "you" not "her", like they're being sung to her. I think you actually figured out something I never could. I just wanted to let you know that. Now to go figure out how to end this, and obtain closure...
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