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Hey ya'll! I'm just an average girl from California (originally North Carolina)that is down to Earth and I speak what is on my mind. I am fourteen years old and I like to act much older than I am, mature wise. I will only answer intelligent questions. I'm not saying I know everything, but ask me a question and I will give an answer as best I can. I take this website very seriously and will not tolerate brainless, adolescent people.

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I'm a female in my early twenties. My brother-in-law has a wife, who he married last year. I was jealous of everytime he was in a serious relationship. Now, he's married, I'm even more jealous. Now he's having his second child with his wife, whom I'm not comfortable accepting yet. My husband and I are also planning to have a child as well, but I am not pregnant with my second child yet. Sometimes I hate it when people do better than me. Especially people I don't like. My brother-in-law doesn't really talk to me and his wife I don't really like, yet I have to learn to accept her. Is it normal to be jealous of other people's good news? I'm acting like my brother-in-law is my blood brother, or something. I also came from a small family where I was always put first, and when someone has good news that happens to them, then it's not all about me anymore. Does the way I was raised have something to do with this? I love it best when I was the ONLY daughter-in-law in the family.

I think it is completley acceptable to be jealous of their having a baby. If I was in your situation I would probably be too. No affence or anything but when I feel that way, I always get a tiny bit angry at myself for being so selfish. A baby is a big deal and having 2 children before anyone else isn't necessarily "doing better" every family along with every person is different and moves at their own pace. Maybe you should tell your husband that you don't accept his brother's wife. Or spend some time and get to know her, it could be that you just aren't used to the change yet. The jealousy is NOT, and I want to make this clear to all the perverts out there, a sign that means you are attracted to your brother-in-law in ANY way! It just means you are looking out for him, because even though not blood related, you are still family. I'm not sure if this is exactly what you are looking for but I hope I helped.

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(Rating: 5) Wow. You hit it right on the nose. That's the best advice anyone has given me yet. Thanks.
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