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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.
To conclude, I'm a level-minded columnist who's not likely to judge. Although I may not understand some situations due to lack of experience, I am an understanding person and will do all I can to help. To people who are "not the brightest crayon in the box", I may appear blunt and brutally honest. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.
And yes, stupid questions DO exist.
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I think there should be a requirement on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". Frankly, I feel this is a helpful and useful site. But far to often, people are excercising their "freedom of speech" rights, and disguising their opinions as bonifide advice.
What set me off was a question asked by a friend of a gay male teen. A large majority of the answers were hateful diatribes delivered by self-righteous homophobes. From the advice you would of thought that her friend had leaprosy. Life is too short to HATE.
I had a good friend in high school that was the son of a youth pastor. The son, my friend, was gay. He chose to kill himself rather than live a life hating himself because he was gay. I did not know he was gay until after he died. I have so many woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Much of my advice on this website is given to those that are gay or know someone who is gay. To me, this is common sense. How can someone who is not gay, does not associate with anyone who is gay, has never associated with anyone who is gay, HOW CAN THEY give advice on a subject dealing with being GAY. I cannot give advice to someone about what it is like to give birth to a baby!! I cannot even attempt anything as such for I do not understand what mothers go through. Its silly. Now imagine if I was trained by others to believe that giving birth to a baby is disgusting and I hated mothers. This analogy is outlandish, but this is how I feel about the "advice" many people give.
Now throughout this "STATEMENT" I do have a question. What do you think? Help me to understand. Am I judging the judgemental, making me just as bad? Or do I have a point? This is the one time that I'd like to hear the opinions.
anonymous -
I agree with you for the most part, but to better understand a situation, you must listen to those opinions that differ most from yours. Although you may not accept their views and oppose it with a passion, you learn most from those most different from you.
Like the topic of gays, yes it is frustrating to hear heartless opinions from homophobes, but have you ever thought of why they felt that way? Have you thought of how it's like to be in their shoes? I'm not against gays whatsoever, but those who are feel that way for a reason. If they make asses of themselves for being arrogant and ignorant, then good for them. But who are we to criticize? People are who they are, and we'll be damned if we are able to change the way they think. The only thing we can do is respect their opinion and try to understand where their coming from.
Also, there are a lot of questions asked on advicenators regarding sexual favors by teeny-boppers which I highly disapprove of, but who am I to tell them what they can and cannot do? The way I see it, people find their own ways of realizing things whether it's from insecurity, regret, or otherwise. For those youngins, they'll most likely regret acting upon their raging hormones when they end up pregnant, contracting an std, and vice versa. For homophobes, they are just narrow-minded which is just a part of who they are. As for if they'll learn anything or broaden their views on gays, unfortunately it's not likely to happen because of their hardheadedness. All it is is a matter of misunderstanding.
Sorry if I babbled on, but to conclude my response, yes it's wrong for people to talk about things that they have little knowledge of, but in doing that they make asses of themselves anyways so there isn't any need for us to confront or judge them for what they think. It all evens out, ya know?
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Thank you for your advice. My frustrations were boiling over and I had to vent. You hit all my points dead on, and although it tough to see it, I was judging them. My only worry is, while you and I can see how narrow minded peoples opinions are on this site, they are handing out advice and possibly converting the naive ones of the world into being false educated biggots. But if it is to happen, and if the naive are naive enough to believe such trash, then so be. That is a hard pill to swallow, and I guess that I, just like them, have some growing up to do. Thanks again.
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