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I just started cutting myself... I wanna stop but nothing helps me feel better. what should I do? (link)
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Hi there! This one is so difficult to answer. Listen a minute and try to understand? OK, it doesn't really solve anything. And it will very likely leave some nasty scars. But when you do it, it provides a sort of relief from your anxieties and fears? Kind of liberating? Comforting? It's what psychologists, or counsellors (however you want to describe them) call a 'coping mechanism'. That's not complicated or difficult to understand, it just means it's something you do to 'help you cope with' (or handle, or deal with) your stresses and worries. We all have theses worries. You, me and everyone. And we all need to find a way to cope with them. Do you know the best way to do that? It's by clearly identifying just what they are. Then being very strong and facing up to them, head-on. Once we do that we eventually get to the end of that long, hard road. We accept them. And they cannot hurt us again. How about starting being strong today? When you feel like you want to cut yourself, tell yourself "No. I know what this is all about. I'm not a victim, I'm not giving in to you today". Try to find someone close. Someone you trust and love. And start opening-up. Telling them your fears, how you cut yourself, how it makes you feel. Try to get it all out. You won't do it all at once, it will be a day-by-day thing. Defy the urge to cut yourself. You might fail sometimes and do it. Say "OK, you win this time...but I'm stronger than you. And getting stronger. And I will beat you". Be very brave and strong. You will get there. Best wishes...and don't give up.
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Thank you for SO much hope! Before I came here and asked this it felt IMPOSSIBLE to ever stop cutting, but you have given me so much to think about and shared some of yourself with me. I feel like you saved my life because I was already looking for ways to end my life but now I see hope! THANK YOU!
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