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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular. However, you can ask me anything. I believe in the value of honesty and I will do my best to be ethical, fair and genuine. xoxoxoxo
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The guy who I've really liked for over a year said that he kind of likes me. What does it mean if he kind of likes me? My friend who is friends with him thinks that since he's shy, he said that he kind of likes me because he was too shy to say yes. This other guy who I talked to who doesn't even know the guy I like said that he thinks it means that the guy I like thinks I'm hot and has a little crush on me, but isn't really like in love with me. What do you think it means if he kind of likes me?
Dear Kindoflikesme,
Guys aren't THAT shy when it's about a girl that they REALLY like. What you are hearing now is the start of what could be him STARTING to like you. Which is a good thing. He's got an eye out for you, but at this early point, it could go either way.
First of all, you don't want to scare him away by being too pushy. Guys need a little bit of hope + doubt to start chasing you. You've given him a little bit of hope because he obviously knows that you like him and he's thinking about it. Here's where the hard work and self-control comes in. Trust me on this. You have to pull back a little. Now. You don't want to give him too much to think about especially anything remotely like chasing after him or being needy or clingy. Not even a teensy thought of that should cross his mind. So, back up, take a deep breath and the next time you see him, give him a little wave and a hi! but don't stop walking, don't give him too much eye contact and don't talk to his friends about him. Just tone it down a notch and keep it cool. Guys love a chase and because he now knows that you like him, just back it up a bit to let him make the next move. Good luck!
Linda
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