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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular.

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Dear Linda
I once asked for help for my friend, but this time its for me...
I have a major crush on a guy in school, and im not sure if he likes me back. From the way hes been acting aorund me lately, a lot of people said he really does like me but is hesitating to make a move OR hes beeing too friendly.
What shocked me is that he just suddenly decided to say hi to me and he even called me just to wave! And he had this sexy and irresistible smile on his face. My gf said that this was to get my attention
Yesterday I was absent so I asked my gf to say hi to him for me.
So he was surprised and asked her if I were sick and she said I was. She said he thought for a moment and then thanked her.
So, does this mean he's concerned? My other friends were surprised too, so does this mean he cares about me?

Today, I went to school cause I was feeling better.
First time we ran (me and him) into each other, he was with a friend of his, so he said "Whats up?" without even looking me in the eye, just while he walked.
So I said "hey"
The second time, as he walked, he looked at me and said "hey , I heard your sick, how are you?"
me:" im fine, thanks for asking, you're so sweet" (is it wrong to say to a guy youre so sweet???)
Why couldnt he stop and ask that question, why is he always walking?!
Im trying to make him jealous in all ways possible, talked to a few guys here and there.
Hes very mysterious, and its hurting me because I dont understand him! I become dumb around him, so does he become dumb around me too? Is that why hes so calm sometimes?
thanks in advance

Teenage Cupid

Hi Again Teenage Cupid!
Here's the good news. He really likes you. Guys don't make any effort whatsoever with girls they don't like. Here's the bad news. Since this is so new and the VERY beginning of something, good or bad, it really could go either way. If you really like this guy, here's how to get him to really like you back. I'll put it in the form of an equation. And you really have to think about it. HOPE + DOUBT = PASSION. Are you thinking about it? There are several behavioral principles that go along with this.
#1 - People subconsciously grow dependent upon those who satisfy their emotional needs.
#2 - People are most attracted to those who exhibit some degree of aloofness and self-reliant independence.
#3 - People want what they can't have!
Okay, so first things first. Give the guy some hope. When he says hi to you...give him a big smile and say hi! and give him a little wave. But don't go towards him. Let him come to you.
Second, make him doubt a little bit. This does NOT mean trying to make him jealous. That is a very tricky area and only something to be used AFTER he really falls for you. This means that you have to live your life and show him you are very happy with your life and can live with him or without him very nicely. Hope and doubt used together will have him falling hopelessly for you. Just another little thought...the best way to favorably impress someone is not by telling them marvelous things about yourself, but by letting them know that you are favorably impressed by them. Oh by the way, the reason he didn't look you in the eye while saying what's up, obviously, it was because he was with a friend and didn't want to appear taken in. Ignore it. Realize that he did that BECAUSE he likes you. Good luck, I think you're gonna do great!
Linda

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(Rating: 5) 1- I never never go to him
2- I always smile
3- I do say "hi" and wave but I cant get it to come out like a "hi!"
4- I know that guys fall for the confident and independent type. Im always laughing the whole time, thats what usually attracts guys to me.
5-So making him doubt means letting him know I can live with and without him, I can do that.
6- There's a party today, what should I do if he's there?
prof_Braveheart88@hotmail.com
thanks

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