about

Im 14 years young. I like acting and singing even though i cant sing. I adore music with out it i could not live. I like Vintage and the 80's. I like giving out advice to those who are in need of it.

advice

[note: this will be long]

I'm 19/f he's 20/m.

I've been with my boyfriend for what will be 3 years in August and I love him very much. But sometimes I can't help but think things like what if another girl comes along that appeals to him and will take him away from me?

My boyfriend always reassures me that he will never cheat, and I believe him for the most part, it's just that I can't help thinking these morbid thoughts. He's a people person who gets along with everybody. But as you know some girls mistake being nice with flirting...and I'm afraid that his social skills might get him into trouble someday.

We don't live as close to each other and don't get the opportunity to see each other as often as we'd both like. He lives a half hour away and we only see each other on the weekends. I don't know if I'm being paranoid or what, but I've never thought such things before...why all of a sudden now?

Some say I'm just overreacting but sometimes I don't know what to think. I am a good girlfriend who's stuck by him through everything and supported him through his ambitions; I don't restrict him and let him go out with his guy friends; I'm moderately attractive; the sex is good...so odds of leaving me are very slim unless there is another part of a guy's standards that I'm not fulfilling? Even so, what can I do to banish these thoughts? And can someone tell me WHY am I even thinking such thoughts when I should have no reason to...?

Thanks!

-Devoted

Devoted,

I think that your paronia is getting the best of you. You have nothing to worry about you have been together for 3 years now and he has yet to cheat on you. Your proabably just letting your insecurities get the best of you. You love him so much and after three years you dont want to lose him. To me it seems normal. I tihnk after fateing someone for 3 years we all began to think like that. As for banishing these thoughts they'll go away with time and confidence. hope ive helped.
x0 - Chenise

[view]

(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice :)
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop
eXTReMe Tracker