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Hi.
I'm in need of some advice of what to do. Lately my boyfriend of 7 months has been seeming different. I do admit this is an internet relationship and I haven't gotten a chance to meet him in person. But things have always been good between us. However lately, he seems distant. I'm not sure why. But I'll go to talk to him and he doesn't respond for long periods of time, and it's not occasionally that he takes awhile to respond. It's anytime I talk to him anymore. Also, he used to always want to talk on the phone but anymore he's always busy or tired. I'm not sure if he's losing his interest or getting tired of me. I'm kind of scared that it has to do with a friend of his and mine that was gone for awhile and just came back recently. The entire time she was gone he was always saying he missed her.
I want to talk to him about it but I'm not really sure how. I've never had this problem before and I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or what.
Please, I really need some advice. :\
anonymous -
The best thing to do is just talk to him about it. Remember to put him at ease, don't accuse him about anything, and don't make him feel obligated to withold information from you.
Just tell him that he's been acting differently (tell him how he's behaving recently) and you're really concerned that he's ok. And be sure to reassure him that he can tell you anything that is on his mind and that you won't overreact if it's bad (make sure you won't either, you don't want to break your word). Remind him that communication is one of the most important foundations in a relationship, and you're just concerned that he's not being open with you lately. You just want to know why is all.
If he denies that anything is wrong, just ask him "Are you sure?" If he says yes, believe him.
If you've been with him for 7 months you should have a good idea of what goes on in his life to tell if he's being suspicious. Could he be tired cuz of sports? Family? Extracurricular activities? School? Remember to take those into consideration.
I hope this helps and good luck :)
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Thank you very much. I really appreciate the help!
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