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Ok this is a real question i really want to know why do most girls think all guys want is sex it drives me mental because i actually flipped out on someone who asked a question and said anyways dont all guys just want to get laid it drives me mental and i just want to know why they think this cause i know when i get a g/f i actually want a relationship. (link)
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Alright, here's what I've come to think about the whole, twisted thing. Let's start simple and work out from there.
Firstly, depending on your age, you can't help but think predominantly of sex. You may want a relationship, yes indeed, but part of that relationship you so fervently desire is sex. In fact, if you had a chance to have a great relationship with someone online you'd never meet, unless you've gone completely through adolescence or keep things alive with pictures and such, you will let that relationship die off because the sex is such a large part of the draw. That goes down somewhat as you age, and eventually fades when you're in your elder years.
But until then it's still very strong. I once heard a woman say that all men are perverted, some just hide it better than others...and I can feel the truth of that statement. Sex, or the future prospect thereof, is a major factor in any honest relationship; if there is never going to be an opportunity for such, a guy will feel a strong desire to break it off. The difference as you age is that you can wait longer, you can keep it down more, it's not so *consuming*.
At adolescent ages many guys don't even try to hide it; it's the major and sometimes only reason they pursue relationships. It's like a drug, it's like booze, it just makes them feel great. So like typical immature people they do it as much as they can get away with...only when they've had their fill or have had it entirely denied will this behavior start to fade. Not all guys are this adamant about it, but all of them feel it, barring some disability...as do you, and you know it. So all guys want sex, and for some of them that's really all they want in a relationship. Once the lust, the *high* starts to fade, they look for someone else, preventing love from ever taking hold and strengthening the relationship.
The thing is, a lot of adolescent girls think in a similar way, but hide it better because they want, they need, the control. It's nature doing its thing...they may not want to admit or accept it, but the draw for sex is a major part of their relationships. They won't want a relationship with someone unattractive if they think they can get a relationship with someone more attractive; it simply defies the way they think. So you may face a lot of frustration unless you're very good at smoothing things over, working with their feelings, and trying to keep them honest. And even then it won't always work out.
There's a general saying that serious dating is practically impossible until well after college for the majority of people. They simply don't want to settle down, they know they can get a lot of people of the other sex and they want to keep on looking until they find what they feel is their best prospect, and then they cling.
This doesn't apply to everyone, but a vast majority of younger people, and as the age goes up a larger percentage will end up maturing earlier than the rest...but to find someone in High School willing to put you above all other people even when you both go to college is very rare indeed.
Of course, if you don't necessarily need the extremely long-term look on things and just want more of a friendship, it's quite a bit easier to find someone like that, but don't expect them to think you don't want sex because you do, and so do they :p
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You do have a huge point there i know there is some drive for sex but what i am saying is why do girls think all guys want is sex when i know that is not all i want
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