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Member Since: January 27, 2005
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Last Update: January 26, 2006
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Hi, I'm 14/f living in California if that helps.
Anyway, my parents are getting a divorce and it's been very difficult- my dad is a chronic liar (diagnosed by 3 doctors but refuses treatment). While married to my mom he had a girlfriend for 3 years. She got pregnant and had a baby boy and he mostly lived with his girlfriend and the baby for 1 year, then my mom finally decided to divorce him. The current arrangement we have is that my 12-year-old brother and I live at my mom's and see my dad every other sunday at 11:00. The problem is that my dad wants half of our house (he wants us to sell it even though he promised in march he would let us keep the house) and that he insists he and my mom have been seperated since 1998 when they have only been seperated since march 2004 (if he tells the truth he will have to pay more money). My mom has a great lawyer who's working very hard, but the court is kind of against us- my dad's friend Al is the bailiff.
Al is a nice guy, though my dad is not, and he and my dad used to be friends because they were both police officers in Oakland. One day as they were making an arrest there was a fire (no one is sure quite how). Al was trapped and my dad saved his life, but Al got some brain damage (I'm not sure how severe it is). Now Al owes my dad big-time so the court is biased against us, basically. Is there anything my mom can do about:
(A) The date of seperation (if needed my brother and I can attest to when they seperated)
(B) Him forcing her to sell the ohuse (not yet but he will and we will have to move far away, it costs a lot to live where we do)
(C) the court being biased?
If anyone knows any website or can help me, that would be great. Thanks in advance. (link)
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I'm not a lawyer, but since your dad abandoned all of you, it seems you would have grounds to ask that the house not be sold until the children are all 18 years old. This is what my ex and I did, and it worked out for both of us. He earned equity on the house, and I had an affordable house payment. It is important that you children have a safe and solid place to live while you are growing up. Have your mom tell her lawyer that if you are forced to sell the house, she will be forced to raise the child support to accomodate living somewhere else. Hope this helps.....sorry you're having to go through all of this.....
Martita
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