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or maybe me just typing this all out will help me come to a conclusion of some sort..well here i go.......About 12 months ago I was going out with my bf at the time who i had been going on and off with for about 9 mths..but i never go to see him much like 3 times a month becuase he lived farther away..but the time we spent was fun yet our relationship was mostly physical(no sex tho) Anyway i wasnt happy and I cheated on him a couple times becuase i was so unhappy i needed sumone to be there with me more..So i desperately was looking for a reason to dump him besides the lame I need sumone i can see more thing...Anywho meanwhile this chad who i was good friends with and had been hanging out with and such had an older brother that i never really had met before until one day i was over to his house and heard crying...his brother jake and his gf of 2 years had broken up for good and he was a wreck..it was the first relationship he had been in and they even lived together for a while and the whole 9 yards...anyway I am a very sympathetic person and I tried to help him out..and I told him my problem of never seeing my bf and how i wanted sumone more sensitive and etc..well Jake and I started talking more and being I was friends with his brother I was over to the house alot...anyway to cut to the chase jake and i after 1 month of totally crushing on each other and late night calls and stuff he shly asked me out ( i was soo happy! this was my reason to dump chad and I had found someone who was cute and i could see alot and I had soo much fun with and he is into music and woow i was soo happy) so ofcourse i said yes.......now 11 months later jake and I are still going out but stuff to me is horrible..let me explain the first 6 mnths of our relationship was amazing, we spent all of spring and summer togther and made soo many memories and i could never get him off my mind... when school started that was when halo came out and he started be absessed with it..well know he doesnt come to school much anymore and stays up til 5am playing Halo and forgets to call me..But the thing is when we do hang out its still soo amazing, but thats only on weekends becuase i no longer see him in school now..and lately on the phone when we talk we often get arguing over stupid stuff and sumtimes i think its becuase i get aggravated with him for not getting his license and skipping school and not gettign a job..but the thing is i love him..and sumtimes i think about dumping him.. but then it seems like my life wouldnt be the same without him as my hunni..b/c we have soo many memories together and everything..But my concern is that the only thing that is stopping me from dumping him is i have grown in the past year of being used to having the comfort of him there, and that maybe i dont love him anymore, im just so used to that being the way it is.. me with Jake..and i still think about him all the time too. But wow i just wrote thatand i still didnt find a solution..so what do you think do i stil truley love him and do i stay with himn and hope the problems go away? I really think i love him but the whole just being with him now for comfort and becuase im used to that and i dont want to deal with change and throw away a whole year of wonderful memories...its just stuff inst the same and it hasnt been for a couple months now.. PLEASE ANYone see throught all this babblin and Help me!!!

Hey, that is quite a bit to read but I did. It sounds like you are in a difficult position right now and I can understand why and where your coming from. What I would do if I were in your position however would be to sit down and talk to him about how you feel and what your concerns are. And if it doesn't get any better after you talk to him than maybe its not worth it. However if you do decide to end it with him you won't be throwing away your amazing memories you can still have them but they may just not affect you the same anymore. But what I suggest most is to sit down and talk with him about everything your feeling and thinking.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks soo much im glad sumone actually took the time to read all that thanks!
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