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Hello. The name is Sarah. I am 16 and home schooled at the moment. I am expected to graduate class of 2005. I am in love with the Fiance, Brandon. He and our relationship mean the world to me and more. We are getting married June of 2006. You can send me questions and I will be sure to answer back.

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My ex boyfriend and I had been together for about two years, and now that we've broken up, he doesn't want to see me at all. (-there wasn't a fight, it was more of a 'this isn't working out, I don't feel that way about you' type of deal.) He's returned my things through a friend of ours, who gave them to me.

Well, I'm still kind of upset about the whole thing, and we were going to talk a little after we'd had some time apart. I still have some things of his, and was wondering if I should A. give then to our mutual friend, B. drop them off at his house/in person, or C. wait a week or two and then give them to him myself.

All of our friends are shared, so it seems that there will come a time when we'll be forced to see each other. I wouldn't cause a scene or push him to feel bad about our breakup if I did see him, but he seems to want to avoid me at all costs right now. When he'd broken up with me, we didn't talk at all, and it seems this still has to happen (not to get back together, but to clear my mind and his a little between us.)
What should I do? Should I wait it out?

Dear Return to sender,
You seem to still be upset over the breakup. Breaking up is sometimes so hard to do and I understand where you are coming from. To me it seems to be obvious that your still not sure what happened between the two of you. You feel that you are stuck in a position where you do not know what to do and it is so hard for you to move on and I feel your pain. Relationships are so hard. Love is so hard. I am thinking that you should face this before it really starts to upset you. Having some of his things still with you holds on to the hurt and the pain that came from the past and giving his things back might kill his ghost that lingers on within you. You need to confront him about all of this. You need to tell him how you feel about what happened between the two of you and how it is affecting you now. Give him back his things as soon as possible. Who cares if he does not want to see you. This is your life and you cannot put it on hold because of how someone else feels. Give him his things and do not look back. You will be just fine, promise. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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(Rating: 5) I really needed to hear that. thank you so much.
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