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Hello. The name is Sarah. I am 16 and home schooled at the moment. I am expected to graduate class of 2005. I am in love with the Fiance, Brandon. He and our relationship mean the world to me and more. We are getting married June of 2006. You can send me questions and I will be sure to answer back.

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Hey...I don't really think you can help much with this, but I'm curious to see what you think of it all. This is probably gonna be long. Sorry.
Okay. My boyfriend and I are really close in every way. We love each other completely, and we're technically engaged. The only thing is...he'd told me he was staying here for college, but then he went on a trip with his family to see the rest of their family this break, and all of a sudden decided he wants to go there for college. That would be a four year separation, maybe more, and I don't know how to handle it. He went away this summer for 2 months and it, like, killed me. I can't imagine not seeing him for a year. We're not going to break up or anything, and I'm not going to try to make him stay (though I'd like to) because he'd resent me, I'm sure, if I did. I don't want to make him stay here for me, but he's planning to go to tech school. Can't he just stay here? I would go with him, but there are absolutely no good vocal programs where he's planning to go, and I already got accepted into a college here that does. (I'm doing vocal performance as my major).
Anyway...I don't know what to do. I almost don't want to talk to him about it because I'll end up crying and making him feel bad, then feeling bad about making him feel bad. Lol. Plus, I hate for him to see me cry.
So...anything to say?

Dear College-Relationship Dilemma,
You seem to care a lot about this relationship. You are going at extra lengths to get others opinions on the choices that are being made here. It is obvious in black and white that you are stuck and you have no idea what to do, because if you did you would not be here in the first place. If this relationship is so important to you and your fiance, you both will find a way to make it work. He is your fiance, right? You both are lacking on your communication skills. This move will change the rest of both of your lives. Grab your fiance and sit him down for a little one on one talk about everything. Do not leave anything out. You might risk your relationship on it. Long distance relationships are so hard and I don not like seeing people go through them; but if it is true love then the distance will never matter. Good luck.
♥Sarah

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(Rating: 5) Yes, he is my fiance. We've been through this before, I just don't want to be away from him for four years. I don't think the distance will have any effect on the relationship...I just miss him when he's not here. I function and sleep better around him. I had nightmares when he was gone last time, and they stopped when he got back. Grr. Lol. Thanks for the advice. I'm gonna take it and talk to him.
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