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i really hate my dad.
no, really.
i sincerely dislike the man.
i am incredibly opinionated and very vocal about my opinions, which he hates.
i know i am smarter than him, he hates this also.
he yells at me for no reason often. condemning my use of the computer. stating that i'm on it too much.
my sister, on the other hand, watches TV all the time. he says i lack social skills because i'm on the computer "too much."
he's not around when i'm not on the computer and doing other things.
but yet i am still on the computer too much according to him.
i fight back all the time, but i hate it. i hate him.
i cant stand this anymore.
i want out.
due to his working situation i dont see him except for some weekends. (my parents arent divorced).
when he tries to punish me, he fails. he really cant. i have more power than he does in our family.
i'm 14, extremely mature and intelligent, if i do say so myself.
i dont want to kill him (in my head i do, on paper it doesnt look so good) but i'd like some way to come to peace with him.
i am NOT going to shut up and stop being opinionated however.
any advice on what i should do?
well, since you have stated you have more power then him, he feels threatened. your intelligence scares him, knowing his little girl doesn't look up to him and need him anymore. your opinions are proof of this. do not stop speaking out, it is his issue if he doen't like it. it's america, speak your mind. also, you being online is feeding you mind of more knowledge, he may not be completely comfortable with that. but yet again, his problem, not yours. but maybe have friends over on weekend when you see him, fun for you and he is assured you do have a social life. you knowing that you are smarter, although, may be true, shows arrogance. many people absolutely intollerate arrogance and find it annoying, toning down the "im smarter then you" will definantly help. but most of all, ask him for help on your homework one day if he's not busy, although he probably won't show it because of hi stupid pride, he will feel needed and maybe cut down on the hateful words. your dad obviously has issues, and never blame yourself for these. and by the way, killing him will never solve your problems. you are smart and have a future, murder will wreck any chance of a life for you. i hope i helped, and good luck.
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thanks. your advice is actually really what everyone in my family has said. i just have an inability to shut up for whatever reason.
thanks though.
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