Gender: Female
Age: 13
Member Since: December 29, 2004
Answers: 13
Last Update: July 29, 2005
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My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years. We've had our problems and worked through them - we started dating when we were still in high school. (I'm about to turn 18, he's about to turn twenty.) We've always been friends and supported each other, knowing that high school relationships don't tend to last very long. Things have been good lately in the sense that we get along, we spend time with one another and care about eachother very much - but lately I've been bothered about where our relationship is going.
We do not and never have said the words "I Love You", and we both used to agree that too many people misuse those words, causing more problems. He has a bad past when it comes to "love" and relationships, but we've been together for two years. I don't expect him to love me necessarily, or to tell me he does when he isn't ready - but I sometimes doubt his feelings for me relationship -wise. We haven't been talking the same way we had been lately, and I tried talking to him about this and he just stayed silent, (his way of blocking out my questions.) The silence is getting to me. I've even tried asking him flat-out, "how do you feel about me?". He seems to think I shouldn't ask him, and won't tell me why he feels like he shouldn't answer. It's starting to make me feel like we've just hit the end, but we're so connected when it comes to being around eachother, we've been friends and more than friends for so long. In short, his actions are there most of the time, but the words are not. I sometimes feel as if after all this time, I've been with a stranger. We don't have 'fun' as much anymore, and he often seems completely enthralled with his thoughts and less enthusiastic about life in general when around me.
I really would like to be in a relationship where we can say "I love you" after being together for so long - or at least be able to be verbally affectionate. - But I don't want to force him or make him feel like he's being forced. I want him to be happy, too, but I sometimes feel I'm not getting the attention I deserve. Am I being over-insecure? Thanks for anyone willing to read this long thing, and help.
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...hard.. i think you might be a bit too over-insecure.. try thinking in his perspective... maybe he's not the kind of person who's really open to other ppl when talking about his feelings.. give him time.. he'll probably talk to you about his feelings for you sooner or later.. i hope i helped.. but then again wut do i no.. rite...??
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Rating: 5
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thanks for trying :) I'll take your advice.
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