I'm a 27 year old female from the west coast, deeply troubled by my own personal pschological inflictions which has inspired a personal interest in psychology. I general have a fresh insight on most things and because I've done almost everything wrong once, I have a lot of personal experience with a lot of crap.
Gender: Female
Location: San Francisco
Occupation: Unemployed
Age: 27
Member Since: December 19, 2004
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I apologize in advance for the potential length of this post.
Lately, I have been having trouble with my father. It seems like he's taking every opportunity to ruin every chance at happiness that I ever had. I normally wouldn't care, but he's really effecting my relationships with other people and my potential opportunity to get into a good college, which is really important to me.
Since I'm only fourteen, I have no way to move out without his complete consent, and I have considered moving in with my mother in San Francisco, but she is physically abusive toward me, so that really eliminates itself as an option.
He's making me feel worthless and like I'm a horrible human being and I don't know what to do. He's called me a slut, a liar, a failure, and a sociopath. Someone please help me. (link)
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Thats horrible, I'm very sorry. What I think you are failing to realize here though, is that where as your mother might be physically abusive, your father is being emotionally/mentally abusive. You have to get out of this situation, otherwise you will seek out people that treat you this way in future relationships. Is there any other relative you can consider moving in with? I would talk to a school counselor or something, the only problem with that, is they have the potential to report to the authorities, and have you taken to a group home (though sometimes that is better than dealing with what you are dealing with). Maybe you could (without dispelling all of the details) tell a counselor that you would like them to suggest to your father that you go to family therapy. It would be good to be in a forum where you can openly express your concerns to your father, with a moderator there to keep him from lashing out on you. Mentally abusive people usually don't even know they are being abusive. It would be good for him to hear how bad he is hurting you, but in a "safe" environment. Good Luck!
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Thanks, I'm going to a school cousellor...I wouldn't mind being in a group home as long as I don't have to deal with this all the time...
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