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Hi, I really need help. Okay, well there is this whole paragraph about this situation, but I'll try to make it as short as possible...
I met this guy, Lance, through a friend, but he is never aloud to do anything because of his parents, even his friends told me he is never aloud to hang out, and to top it off he is grounded, so I haven't talk to him since literally, October.
I started to become friends with Lance’s friend, Brett, mostly because it was my only way of I guess having any connection with Lance.
Then, I started having feelings for Brett, and he started having feelings for me. Now I am not the type of girl that is going to break up a friendship just because I like someone, because I'm 14 and I probably won't even see these boys after high school. Anyway, we just stayed friends, but everyone said it was obvious that we liked each other, but it wasn't a big deal because we never did anything but talk all the time and that's it.
Now, Brett was just recently dumped by his ex, and he started being REALLY mean to me, and pushing me away, and I wanted to talk to him about winter break because after he came back from his vacation with his parents he wanted to hang out, so I tried calling him, and for 4 days he blew me off. So finally the other day I just told him he was being really mean to me, and he said that I was lying and he wasn't mean he just doesn't care about me anymore which really hurt my feelings.
I just don't know what to do, I want to just be friends with both Brett and Lance because they are both friends, and both of them are so much fun to hang out with and talk to, but I don't like either one of them as more then friends. But, I told Brett I wasn't going to talk to him anymore because he of what else he said to me, which I can't say on here, and I don't know what to do. Should I just forget about even being friends with Brett or what? Again I am so very sorry for making this so long, but this has been going on for a really long time and I was going to ask a question on here soon, but things just keep progressing. Please help.
Signed,
Hurt friend
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Brett could just be hurting because his ex broke up with him so he is taking it out on the person closest to him...you. He may (this will sound strange) be pushing you away because he needs you right now. He probably feels dumb for being the one broken up with. Don't be mad at him for being mean, even though it's not nice. It's just his way of acting out on his anger. My boyfriend is the same way. When he is being mean, ignore him, but be there for him. Let him know you are his friend and he can talk to you (nicely) any time he needs. And this other guy Lance, poor guy, strict upbringing it sounds like. Just be his friend too. Your intentions seem simple, you sound like a good friend, so just be that for both boys. Stay neutral. Be kind. It's all good. I wish you luck, sweetie!
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