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Hello. My best friend has been with this guy for a year and a half. They got their own apartment together in the beginning of September. I am not crazy about her being with him because he is lazy and overweight, and anti-social. My problem is that I am afraid my friend is going to turn this way too now. She used to be so much fun. They always have their shades drawn and they never want anyone over they say they are sleeping. I am afraid I am going to lose my best friend to a boring life of nothingness. I know it's getting to be winter/hybernation time, and they just moved in together not too long ago, but I also know what type of person this boy is and he is just going to influence her to shut out the world like he always has. I think she thought he was a different person when they first went out and she may be too attached to ever get out of it now. She gets obsessively attached to things and I'm afraid she is going to miss out on life for a while and I'm going to miss her, because "my friend is sleeping." Thank you to whomever answers. (link)
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You could be talking about two people that I know. They lived like that for two years and it's only just starting to go pear shaped now.
You have to ask why this guy wants to hide himself away from the world. Is it insecurity, fear of failure, agrophobia?
The real problems arise if he wants to keep your friend as some sort of pet. Guys like this tend to be control freaks in my experience.
You can't do anything until she wants to do something about it, but keep in touch with her and let her know that you are there for her so that when she finally gets fed up with this loser and wants to leave him, she knows that you are there for her and that she will not feel that she has to stay with him through fear of being alone.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you, you've given me the best advice yet. It's what I wanted to hear. Thanks, again.
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