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This column is meant for basically any problem you may have on Love, Relationships, problems with family members, school, work, etc. If you ask any questions on rape, suicide, or any other serious situatioins, all i'm going to do is advise that you seek professional help from counsler or doctor, and give you my personal viewpoint. Hope any advice I have given helps ya'll. =) Hope you like my advice column!!!!! *XoXo*

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Sorry... this is a sex question and there are somewhat graphic content. Not really bad but if you're young, you might not want to read this. Please only OLDER columnists answer this. I don't want advice from an inexperienced 13-14 year old. Someone who knows what I'm going through would help. And so... here's my question....



Hey, I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16. Yesterday I was at his house and we were doing sexual things and then I told him to go get a condom. (he uses them normally for self pleasure so it doesn't get anywhere...) So he went upstairs and got it but when he came back down I was crying. I don't know why I was crying. I really feel like I'm ready to have sex with him. We've been together for 2 years and we love eachother very much. It's weird though, I know that I'm physically and emotionally ready to do it it's just that, whenever we are about to, I get scared. Is this normal? Can anyone help me out?

PS- I'm a virgin and so is my boyfriend and we both want to lose our virginity to eachother.

Oh goodness....I was in your exact postion about two years ago. I was 14 and my boyfriend was 16 and I knew I was ready but I was scared. He said to me one night after I had changed my mind about it like fifty thousand times, "I think you're ready, but you're just scared." Then it hit me. He was completely right. Virginity is a very special thing, and it's only normal to cry...Afterwards, I cried a little bit, because it was a very emotional experience. We were both virgins and we had been together for over a year. Before that we had talked about it and talked about it for months. I don't regret it and I know I felt exactly the same way you did.

If you're going to do it, i'm proud that you told him to get a condom, protection is very important. If you want to reassure yourself, this is with a person you've been committed to for two years, you love him, he loves you. You've held on to your virginity your whole life, so yes it's going to be very hard to give it up and very emotional. Just do something to calm yourself down before...coz trust me, everything will be fine. =) It's a truly amazing experience.

But, if you think hard and decide you still aren't ready to go for something like this, don't. Because even if you feel ready, you may not be...even though I was in my case. So do some reflecting of your feelings, and maybe you'll find the answer. Hope I helped any! =)

ps- talking to your partner always makes you feel better about it too =)

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(Rating: 5) thanks SOOO much! GREAT advice!
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