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hey .. ok .. here is the thing ..i have 2 best friends.. lets call them elle and iris.. we're really close..we're in 9th grade.. in school, we usually like guys our age or 1 or 2 years older.. there's an important guy at our school and he needs a bodyguard to stay with him. my friend, elle, likes this bodyguard. not offending anyone..but, we're upper class girls and as you may imagine, not only
this guy isn't from the same socially "priviledged" class as us, but he's also around 30 years of age. this is hardly the problem, the guy stares not only at my friend, but at iris and me. iris and i have become very fearful of what this may end in. some dude used to call elle to her cel phone (without telling her who he was
and he asked her sexual things and implying stuff he shouldn't imply. she answered and took things very lightly. anyways, i asked her if she would date him if a relationship would occur (cuz she HAS NEVER had a conv. with him..!!)
she told me she would, and not only date him but have sexual intercourse with him. as you can imagine, i'm very worried because i have no idea what this pedophile freak is capable of. he looks at her with these provocating eyes and she looks back at him, responding.
i dunno what he could do to, not only her, but us. i have this feeling. i dunno if he's capable of doing something to her against her will- as in raping her. i talked to my mom and what she told me was that iris and i needed to talk to elle urgently to tell her what she could get herself into before this goes too far.
SHE TOLD ME SHE LOVED HIM. iris is talking to her mother right now to ask for advice. this is a great deal to both of us so i would REALLY appreciate your advice. thank you so much for reading this long .. thank you ..

That's kind of...illegal. Ever hear the term "statuitory rape?" Any man at the age of 30 willing to date or have any form of sexual relations with a 13-14 year old has both mental and legal issues. The fact that she is willing to consent to this is also disturbing. Maybe she has some deep rooted family issues, what's her relationship like with her father. I'm taking a stab in the air here, but I'm willing to predict that her father either doesn't live with her or is frequently absent for work or another issue. But one thing to note is, guys do look. We're pretty much always willing to let the thought of something sexual in, even if we don't intend to do it, we're always willing to entertain a brief thought about it, however, if it was really the bodyguard that made the phone call, it would be good to stay clear of him.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much for your advice .. you were right about her dad .. he is an alcoholic .. thanks again ..
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