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This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.
So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.
Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.
However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.
If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.
I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help? (link)
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My husband makes a lot of money a year, enough to where he bought me a house for Christmas, diamonds and the like BUT I AMJUST A SCHOOL TEACHER and COUNSLEOR who doens't make nearly...NEARLY as much as he makes. He and I have had this discussion before with him and here is his answqer. He loves me for me,things take time and patience and one day I will be able to contribute more but HE KNEW WHAT I WAS AND WHAT I HAD BEFORE HE MARRIED ME and it didn't matter. He wanted me...not what I could give monetarily. I mean, he is glad I have a job but he knows I am not bringing in the kind of money he is. I had an offer to dowhat you are planning to do a long time agao (like 7 years ago) but they wanted me to run the house. They were going to buy the house, have me live in it, let it be in my name and all I had to do was teach the girls how to be sexy and let them use the house ford ates. The money seemed good..GREAT but something inside said it was wrong...just didn't feel right.Not just because of the stigma of being in a job like that..just wrong inside. If I really wanted to do it, I wouldn't have had to think about it or ask my friends advice, I would have just did it. Look at the reason you are asking for advice, you feel it is not right somewhere within you as well. If you felt it was okay and wouldn't jeopardize your future with your partner, you would have just did it without asking anyone anything. Also, think of it in the other direction..you know the love you have for your partener and wouldn't want them to not only sleep with other people for money (and come home to you) but also risk their safety in the process(from arrests to psychos doing things to your loved one). You wouldn't want your loved one to feel this type of pressure inside just because of some preconceived notion that they may have about having to contribute more in order to make you happier or feel like they were less of a burden to you. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt and know that they are marrying you for LOVE not your charitable contributions. Love..Sweetheart..LOVE.
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Thank you for all your kind empathy :)
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