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I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her?
just tell her that you're very sorry but you could only stay on for about 10 minutes because you have to get up early the next day. and if you keep talking on the phone with her later you'll never be able to get up. then tell her to get all of her problems out in 10 minutes and if she can't do that then you guys can talk a/b them later that day. Once 10 minutes is up if she's still talking then let her finish her sentence and then tell her that you need to go because you're really tired and u need to get up early. if she gets mad about that then she's the one being rude for not thinking about anyone else but herself.
(Rating: 4) Thank you.