My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
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hey...i'm 17 and my b/f and i have been dating for 4 years. We really truly love eachother. I know it's true and i know he respects me. When we were 15 he wanted sex but i said no and he hasn't bothered me with it ever since. That's how i know he respects me. Also, i know he has never cheated on me so i know he's serious about this relationship like i am. I love him and i know he loves me. I guess my question is, i can tell he wants to have sex now and it's making me antsy. He wouldn't ever force me too but i'm afraid that he'll crack any second if we don't have sex. Should i have sex with him or should i stick with my morals and say no if it comes up. I really love this guy..what should i do? (link)
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BOTTOM LINE: stick to your morals...
I'm totally serious...not sticking to your morals is going against what your heart tells you to do..and that's not good. If he loves you he should wait...you BOTH should...
Sex is a special thing and just because you love someone doesn't mean it's all about the sex...you could love someone for 20 years before you have sex...and if it's really love you both would be willing to wait for each other...
I'm sure you and your boyfriend are very happy together..but, you never know how long the relationship will last. Personally, I believe in premarital sex but then again I don't...I don't believe a piece of paper saying that you're married should change what already felt like it was...but marriage IS a big deal no matter how people look at it. It's a lifetime commitment to each other and I'm not saying that your boyfriend would ever do anything bad to you but..he could leave you the second you lose your virginity...
Now, I'm not saying he will but its good to keep the relationship on hold and stuff..and to slow things down from time to time no matter HOW MUCH you both love each other...waiting will be sooo great in the long run...
The way I look at it is..if you wait until your married to share something as special as sex...it will be so much more worth it because it's like you both WAITED for eachother...that's the beautiful part...
You both love each other so much that you will wait to commit to each other before you have sex...and by the time you two are married you'll have so much to look foward to and it wouldn't be all the same thing...ya know?
I mean..sure you can have sex now but I mean..if you did there would be no excitement on your honey-moon night knowing that its not the first time..knowing that you will never have that same nervous but comfortable feeling the first time you do it...and its like its all been done before, ya know?
You know...it's totally your choice...it's all on you now. But, I'm just saying..no matter how much I love the person I would wait..because I want to feel that for the first time when I know the relationship is secure...I would wnat my first time to be after my wedding when you feel the love for eachother and you realize that you have both waited this long...and you love eachother sooooo much...
Good Luck...tell him what you feel...if he loves you he'll understand...
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thanx you are good at giving advice thats for sure.
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