Member Since: April 17, 2004
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Last Update: January 3, 2005
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I am 17. When me and my boyfriend were first together, things were so great. We used to do so much together. We saw eachother everyday. We couldn't stand being away from eachother. Infact, we couldn't be away from eachother so much that he convinced his parents and I convinced my mom to let me move in beacause it was like we practically lived together anyway. We've been together for 8 1/2 months, and lived together for about 3. I love him so much, but now at days I can't tell how much he loves me. We rarely do anything together anymore. He's always hanging out with his friends. infact, about 5 mins ago he just left with his friend to go watch a movie on his friends big screen. The only reason he came here was to get a movie, and mind you its 2 o'clock in the morning. This is how it is for me every night for like the past 2 weeks, I am up til like 3 waiting for him. I tried to tell him how left out I feel but I havn't seen any improvement. Just now I tried to talk to him and he said "I'm sorry, do you want me to take you back home?" its like his solution is breaking up. I feel like I am last on his list. I don't know what to do. (link)
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It's important to realize that in all relationships there is a stage that everyone goes through at the beginning where you always want to be together with your new love, where you believe that you'll never tire from one another, and that you can't imagine possibly being apart set in. You two felt this... And took it much, much too far. You two are young adults, but in all honesty, much too young to be making a committment to be living together and having the expectation that you will spend every waking minute with one another without growing tired of one another.
It sounds as though your boyfriend has gotten past the "honeymoon stage" while you're still stuck inside of it, wondering where the old boyfriend went. He wants to spend time with his friends, and I think that the knowledge of you always being there waiting for him when he gets home is a little bit scary to him right now.
Here's my advice: Move back home. You're young... Spend time with your family and don't jump into situations as serious as moving in with a boyfriend of 5 months. This relationship may not be over, but I definitely think that the two of you need to spend time apart before you can move on. If you continue to live at his house, I think that it's inevitable that he will keep pushing you farther and farther away while you are left alone in his home wondering what you did wrong.
EDIT: Your immaturity astounds me. If you were not looking for someone's honest opinion, you should have just typed "Somebody please tell my 17 year old undeveloped mind that my boyfriend whom I have been dating for 8 and a half months still loves me more than anything in the world and wants to come home every night for the rest of his life to see me there."
The way in which you chose to not even consider my advice, insult my integrity, call me immature names, and take the advice that you had already formulated in your head simply reaffirms the belief that I already had that you are an immature girl who has no idea what she is getting herself into. Best of luck to you.
Lauren
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All I said is that you need better advice giving skills. Your advice was exactly what you said, and honest oppinion, but it was based on only your oppinion. You hear 17 and 19, and you automatically assume too young. You think I don't know what i am getting myself into? Think again. You have no idea what my circumstances are. You don't know me to give the advice you're giving. You don't know the facts. And yes my bf does love me more than anything in the world. Do you know that the both of us have struggeled all our lives, and when we found eachother, we were there to motivate one another and progress in our lives. Do you know we were good friends when we did all that for eachother, and thats why we decided to be together. Do you know how much time we had together as friends before, we were together? This is the 1st problem we have ever had as a couple, and for being together for about 3 quarters of a year, I think that is great. Yes living together is a big thing, but he asked me to live with him because I was at his house so much, I might as well have. He can not imagine falling asleep without me in his arms. And like i told you before, we solved our problem, I took someone elses advice and it worked. You can't give someone advice from ideas that you just assume in your mind. You can only give advice from the facts that I present to you in my question. That was the point I was trying to make, and if you can't take an honest oppinion, then you are just immature as I.
You don't even know the whole story to say something like I don't need to be living with him. We were never up eachother's asses, how you're making it seem. We spent enough time to where I was statisfied, then there was no time at all. And once again, you don't even know whether or not I spend time out as well, I have friends too, idiot. I took someone elses advice, her name was "angelp", that was based on the facts I gave, and they worked. My bf and I are doing much better, and he understands how I feel. He just didn't realize how upset it made me. So before you give advice, make sure you get the facts straight, and maybe you should seek some advice on giving advice from "angelp". Thanks but no thanks!
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