Gender: Female
Location: Michigan
Occupation: Student
Age: 18
Member Since: March 5, 2004
Answers: 1
Last Update: March 8, 2004
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have question.
Is it wrong to expect a B-day party?
I am not someone that is selfish or anything of the sort but I dont know. on tuesday i will be turning 14 and i won't even be getting a cake let alone gifts. now my mother is poor and we don't have alot of money so this is the reason im feeling selfish thinking this. i have a cousin that turned 8 today and the had this HUGE bash infact they have had a big bash everyyear of her life but its like im to "OLD" now and no one thinks of me. i feel like im being selfish but yet i really would like to have something to look back on. turning 14 is something big for me cause turning 14 means being "more" of an adult now. another thing that is this i big to me is because i have never had a b=day party in my life. yeah if you count my aunt, grandmother, and 1 of my 2 sisters. my mom says oh, just wait till your sweet sixteen. yeah well she told me that when i turned 12 that i could have a big party when i turn 13 or 14, well i just feel like a big baby that wants gifts. i don't even care about the gifts its just that i feel as if no one even thinks about me. i just would like to have one day to myself for me instead always being the one everyone turns to. i have had 1 person send me a b-day card. i know i sound like a big selfish baby but i guess i need some advice.
sincerely
B-day party blues (link)
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My personal opinion is that you shouldn’t ever expect anything. Everyone sooner or later, will expect something. It’s natural. But when it doesn’t happen, we not only feel disappointed but we also feel upset and sad, because it didn’t take place. Expecting something that doesn’t have a chance at happening, can and will lead to disappointment. Birthdays aren’t about presents or gifts, material things such as those don’t matter. Having a birthday, is about spending time with the ones that you love, to celebrate YOUR day. The day that you were born. If presents, a party, and a cake, make that more special to you, then I suggest taking time to think, because it shouldn’t have anything to do with making a birthday more special.
You shouldn’t base your life, by what other people have. Out in this world, there’s people out there that have it easier then you do, and there’s also people out there that have it worse off then you do. Who cares if your cousin had a BIG bash for her birthday, who cares if she has a BIG bash every year until she’s 80 years old. You’re not her, and she’s not you. Don’t expect to receive what she does. Stop wasting your life hoping and praying for something to change, for something to take place. Stop wasting your life wishing and hoping that you were someone else, and that your mom was able to afford certain things. We’re all dealt a hand of cards, it may not be the best hand in the world, it could possibly be the worst hand that anyone could ever expect. We can’t just throw down our hands, give up and say “I can’t do this anymore, I’m not doing this anymore, It’s so unfair this person has that, and that person has this.” We suck it up, and we play our hand the best way that we know possible, knowing that one day things will get better but yet realizing that things get worse before they get better.
My birthday is also tomorrow. I’ll be 18 years old. I’m not getting a cake, I’m not getting a party and I’m most definitely not getting any gifts. Why? Because my mom lost her job, and I know that she can’t afford it. So, instead for a change. I’m taking her out to dinner. I’m going to treat her to something, that she’s deserved for a long time. She’s taken care of me, for 18 years. She’s been there through the good times and the bad times. She’s kept food on the table, she’s kept a roof over my head, she’s made sure that she paid the bills, so we would have running water, heat and electricity. That right there, is something to be thankful for. There’s thousands of people out in this world, that don’t have what many of us Americans take for granted, such as; Running water, a warm bed, food on the table, shoes, clothes to wear, shoes, etc. You may not have the richest mom in the world, you may have a mother that struggles to make ends meet at the end of the month. BUT! If you have a mother of whom loves you and cares about you deeply, well then girl, you’ve got it made.
Tomorrow is your day, but don’t be to short-changed and to self-absorbed to give your mom a pat on the back and to give her a big ol’ thanks for taking care of you for all these years. She may not be able to give you name brand-clothing, she may not be able to swamp you with gifts, or all the nice fancy and cool things that you want, but what she can give you, is love. Be proud of who you are, where you come from, and your home-life, after all it helps build us into who we are. You’re just going to be fourteen years old, in a few years you’ll be able to get a job and help yourself out as well as your mom, things may be different then. But for right now, learn a lesson that some of us don’t learn until we grow older, if we ever learn it at all. That lesson is, that love is the best gift that anyone could ever receive.
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