I am 14(female). I have really close relationships with both my parents. Well my dad is up in Montana(long story, not b/c of devorice) and its just me and my mom. I lie to my mom a lot but then I feel terrible after, but I can't woman up and confess(if she doesn't find out).And also I yell at her and sometimes tried to push her away(not hard enough to hurt her but it makes her mad). So how can I stop these bad actions and habits
You're a teenager you're going to have battles with your mom. You're going to test her and might even lie to her. I had trouble with my mom when I was a teenager, because I didn't feel like she understood I felt like she was always attacking me. I was wrong. I was being difficult and I wasn't making things easy for her. You NEED to respect your mother and tell her how much you care about her. My whole idea about my relationship with my mother changed when my best friend lost his mom to cancer. It made me realize how lucky I am to have my mother and that I need to treat her with respect. Do I mess up every once in a while? Of course. I'm not perfect but I do my best to show my mother I care about her and I respect her. She has been there for me through thick and thin and there is no one else on this earth who has done more for me than my mother. You need to respect her and start telling her the truth. I know right now its hard to not get mad but you have to understand she is the adult and you live under her roof so you need to go by her rules. Why not try to have a mom/daughter night a week? Where you watcha movie together or you have dinner together. Do something nice together or maybe get her a flower or something saying 'I'm sorry'. I'm sure you're a great kid, but you need to make sure you treat your mother nicely.
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Ok I have a really hard time concentrating both at home and at school. Im like ill get distracted by little tiny things it's unbelievable. My most stupid one was a fly caught in a light and I decided it was a prisoner so I was being daft laughing at it. I sometimes zone out and when i zone back in ill be be like "woah the teacher has been talking" or it's like she/he is talking a totally different language than me. My only good grade is in English where I am on a B and predicted an A. That's because I know what I'm doing. All my other lessons im on D's and under. It's really bad. I've had phone calls home and my 'dad' is really p'eed at me for not getting the grades HE expects me to get. I try and try to tell him im sorry I cant concentrate I really do try but it's like there's a million tv channels going off in my head when I try if you get me? But he really doesn't listen. I can't revise because Ill either get distracted or just wont do it because it doesn't interest me. My 'dad' said it cant be anything to do with a condition or anything because ill happily sit on the laptop as soon as I get home if im not at my friends. But that's only because I like that if I get told to do something I don't want to do Ill try and put it off forever. I've been to the doctors and told them and they said tell your teachers (good doctors yeah?) I told my teachers they ignored me and just said im a typical teen. My friend thinks I should move doctors and go to hers then if they say the same thing leave it. I've got big exams coming up and I really need to get my head down and work but i just cant. When I'm out of school it's pretty much the same. Ill say something and keep continuing it on until my friend gives me the 'stop it' look. But i'm always so hyper and everyone says like Im always loud and I really don't realize it it's well weird. N like they'll say im always hyper. I try and be quite but it doesn't work. Ill also get bored really easily and people will get annoyed at me. Also I get told to stop moving around. I think that's all I can put. Really sorry it's so long. Any advice or anything you think might be wrong with me will be really helpful
It sounds like you might have ADD. I have ADD and sometimes its VERY hard to concentrate. It feels like when someone is talking to me at times it feels as though there are some many distractions going on in the background. I start projects and sometimes don't finish them and that goes for books as well. You should go to the doctor and tell him your concerns he could be the only one to tell you whether it is or not. Good luck!
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am totally fedup and think i can't do nothing to change my destiny. My great ancestors where poor, my father poor that he even abundoned us. Moma poor and the whole clan. I have tried with all the money i had to make it but lost all my money. Moma always tells me i might be like my father yet i hate his ways, style and everything about him.I can't move any longer with this kind of life in Africa when there are people well off!! if i cant have it then my best punishment for failure must be death.am looking for the easiest way to die before january 10th. tried disone but failed to kill me. this year i wanted to join the US army front in either Iraq or Afagnistan in order to atleast die a fighter and easy but i was told they are moving out.what it the easiest and quickes way to die.
Failure isn't something that should be looked at in a negative way. If anything failure should push you to get back up and try again. How is committing an act so tragic going to help you? The answer is it's not. As I have have said it before and I'll say it again suicide is never the answer. I have known people who feel there is no way out and they feel that the only way to get out is to die. That's not the answer and it's not the truth. You have the power to change yourself no one else does and you have the power to control your future. So what what you fell off your horse. Get back up and start again! Please stay positive! If you need to talk to someone I would be more than happy to talk to you. xx_angel_eyesxx@hotmail.com
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I need Help please im failing i dont want to
Try seeing your teacher after school for extra help or even trying get help at home from your parents. I would suggest talking to your teacher about what you need to do to pass this class. Positive thoughts and thinking help as well! Good luck!
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I think one of my major problems with my confidence is my smile, I do not have a normal pretty smile like everyone else and we can't afford braces. So i think by that most people think im ugly or something and don't want to talk to me. im skinny and i have a long face with naturally curly hair and i don't really do anything with my hair i just leave it down and curly all the time. its medium length and i don't think that goes with my face shape much.. so idk what to do bout that. i have small boobs and not the greatest body. im just small and skinny. im 5'8. i just don't really know what to do to make myself more attractive to other people i guess. i know my smile isn't going to help anything because that's whats usually attractive about a person. but i have a great personality im told just i guess that's not what matters at first. help if possible.
I think you're being way to hard on yourself. Think of the positive things and work with what you have. For years and years I have complained about things I want to change about myself but now I embrace them. For example my friends are all shorter than I am and I always wished I was petite like my girlfriends. I finally realized that I should embrace being tall, I have long legs that people would die for. No one is perfect but I'm sure you're being way to hard on yourself. Think of the good qualities and stop putting yourself down.
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So basically my friend and I are like...bff. On day she texted me saying "I think we should spend some time as not best friends". I felt extremely mad and discouraged, but I knew I should keep cool. I answered saying "tell me why you are mad, and I will try to fix it". She said that there is no way of fixing it and that she doesn't want to forgive me. The text messages have been going on for about a month now, and when we see each other in person at school we she completely ignores me. I really miss my friend. How can I get her back?
Wow your friend isn't even telling you why she's mad? It's sounds to me like there's nothing you can do. I wish I had an answer but it just sounds like she's being VERY unreasonable and unfair. To tell you to go talk to her would seem dull due the fact that you already have. If you care about her and respect her that much than I would follow her wishes. Why do you want to be friends with someone who is going to be like that anyways?
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im bipolar and have lost my job with no money coming in and no hopes of finding a job where I live in this small rural area.My mother-in-law is trying to break up my marriage of 27 years to my wife all over a small piece of land that was promised to my wife by her now dead father.My daughter has a life of her own now and my wife never wants to talk anymore.the mortgage company and electric company is at my door ready to disconnect power and throw me out.If im gone mother inlaw will help my wife so I see no other option.Please pray for them after Im gone
I can see you're under a lot of stress and it can be tough at times but as I have said before suicide is NEVER the answer. Everyone has tough times, its how you get through it that makes you stronger. Right now things are going on but its best to try and keep a positive mind and I know its hard. Believe I've been at times in my life where I think negatively and it gets me no where but it makes me feel a hell of a lot worse. What you need to do is step back and have a plan. Look for another job maybe a temp job at the moment so that you have money coming in. Try to stay positive and please try and talk to someone.
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I'm 13 and I have my eye teeth missing due to removal and there's two big gaps where they should grow in. Does it make me unattractive to girls? I also have braces, and my smile looks stupid. Any help appreciated!
Looks aren't everything you know! It's who you are as a person and how you treat people. I don't understand the whole thing about looks because looks can fade. It's the personality that stays. I could be on a date with a jock who looks great but has a crumby attitude and a lame personality. Or I could go out with a regular guy who treats me well and can have a conversation and not look like Brad Pitt. It doesn't matter what a person looks like it matters who they are inside. And the fact that you are putting yourself down because you think your smile is stupid isn't helping you. Be confident in you, and don't worry what other people think.
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Now i am 18 years old. I want to die now with painless.
I always wonder why people post on here wanting to kill themselves and thinking that someone is going to tell you how. You're 18 years old, you're young and you're going to make mistakes. Everyone does we are all human. Suicide isn't the answer for anything. If anything it creates pain for your friends and family. I know you're going pain at the moment but you need to realize that you killing yourself won't solve your problem. Get some help talk to someone, maybe a therapist or a doctor about how you are feeling. Life isn't all that bad you have to think positive. I know it's hard but you have to try.
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im feelind down about things. Feeling like i dont belong maybe there just too much goin on in my life and is not lilke i can just explain it all cus it probably wont be enough space. Maybe im just too different or maybe im just with the wrong person. Too much hurt to erase and even when tried no communication with me so i have to figure him all out on my own. Babygirl just stares loves me and runs after me. She wants to play with me. And i hide my pain and put on a smile. Then i go to the bathroom feel so angry i think i have anger issues when i get mad i want to fight. But then i can give the best advice . Advice i wish he can take from me but he just keeps hurting me till theres no more of me. And im tryin for her and for us its getting hard though wish there was more communication more love and even if there is love im tired of talking tired of living. Mayb i just dont belong here. I wana go.
Whenever we're feeling down we always have a negative outlook on things. Sometimes it looks like nothing can be fixed and we give up easily. Don't give up. Whatever you're going through it will get better. I don't know who this guy is that you speak of but maybe you need time for yourself to concentrate on you and your baby girl. Don't give up. Think of your baby girl. I know as a mom you want whats best for her. I don't have a child but if I did I would go to the ends of the earth to give my child the best. I know you love her and care for her. I'm sure she is your world and that you are the BEST mom! Keep holding on and you'll make it through. Think of what's important in your life and what you need to do. I hope this helps and keep your head up!
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I'm sixteen. It's junior year, and it's time to get cracking on looking for colleges and everything. I'm so upset because I feel like I will never ever be happy, or good enough for myself. I try so hard. I am lazy and unmotivated, and lately I've been getting yelled at by my parents. "You're sixteen, you should know how to do this!" It really upsets me because I feel so let down and stupid. I'm sixteen and I don't know how to do certain things. My parents have never taught me to be independent, and not that I'm putting the blame on them, but when I was a kid, they babied me, and now that I'm grown, I know nothing. They barely talk to me about this stuff, and I'm so scared of amounting to nothing when I go out into the real world. I make decent grades, but they're not good enough for my parents. I try my best, but I constantly feel like shit all the time. Any advice?
I like to call this the bird's nest syndrome. I went through and I'm still going through it at this point. It's almost as if you have been in this nest for your whole life and you haven't gone anywhere but stayed din the nest. Now your parents want you to get up and fly the funny thing is, is that they never taught you. I feel the same way with my parents. What I realized is that I needed to start doing things myself and take responsibility for myself. It stinks but that's the only true way to handle it and it maybe hard but you will get through it. Get the support of your friends and do the best you can. If you need help talk to maybe your parents, a guidance counselor, or maybe a teacher at school. Good luck!
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so im not skinny but i'm kinda chubby and i bought a pair of pants today and they didnt fit when i tried to put them on. So im thinking about becoming anorexic to lose weight. i just dont know what to do.
Being anorexic isn't the answer because one it's a disease and two it isn't the right way to lose weight. A girl that is anorexic has a disease that takes over what she thinks about her body she doesn't just become anorexic. If you aren't happy with the way you look just change your eating habits and exercise a bit more. That's a healthier and safer way to lose weight.
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So last night my mom saw a hickey that my boyfriend of a year and 3 months had accidentally left me and she flipped out and she said she didnt want over at my house anymore... i love him too much to let go but idk what to possibly tell my mom to make the situation better. Help please!!
I think for your mom it's hard to see her little girl with a hickey on her neck. Has your mother ever met him? Have you ever had him over for dinner? I'm assuming she has if you've been dating him for a year and three months. It's important to remember that you are still under your mother's care and under her roof so you need to respect her. On the other hand you are almost 18 which is considered an adult and that makes you responsible for your own choices. I would sit down with your mother and have a conversation and talk about it calmly. Tell her that this situation she cause her to make such a rash decision. You don't want to make this situation like Romeo and Juliet ya know? Give your mom some space right now and when you feel she is calm try talking to her and telling her how you feel. I think it's a good idea to tell your mom how you feel about this guy and how much you want her to like him. Good luck and I hope everything turns out well!
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What do you do, when you are learning that a friend is not so much a friend?? I have been friends with my daughter's father since high school. That has been since the year of 91... Now I have been a good friend to him through out the years, but he is an on & off kind of friend. I have feelings for him & always have, but he doesn't see me for some reason. He say he cares, but whenever he is going through something I have been there for him. He calls me we talk & we have good communication, but whenever he is involved wit someone he tends to treat me as if I am his convenience. He needs someone to talk to when things are not right in his relationships, but then when they are fine he doesn't want to be bothered. I am fed up & it is really making me not want to deal with him, but for my daughter's sake I must. What can I do to move pass this man that doesn't want to be a friend???
I have an ex that is the exact same way, we don't have a child together but he acts the same way. I no longer have feelings for him but for years he would call me when he wanted something and he would constantly ignore me if it was the other way around. I guess the best thing to do is obviously talk with him involving your daughter but anything else having to do with his love life or personal matters don't talk about it. Don't be as open with him and don't let him use you as a punching bag. Let him know you're not his doormat!
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First off call me ice. Anyway,how do you know if you're in love? Trust me there aren't that many cute guys in my class. I mean you have the regular jocks,nerds,crazies,popular, and just plain mean people ( when i say crazies i mean it- she chases guys all over the place! And plus,she stuffs her freaking mouth full of food and lets it drip on your hand! Ewwwww) but apart from that,not much. Oh yeah we are all in 6th grade. I just wanted to know how you know you're in love. Thank you so much!
Love can be defined in so many ways and for many love hits them in a different way. I'm in love with my boyfriend, he's my best friend and loves me no matter what. He makes me happy and he makes me laugh. For once in my life, being with him I can still be myself. I'm not saying we're perfect but we just have a connection and we have so much in common that its hard not to see him in my life. I guess being in love to mean it doing anything and everything for the person you love. I would take a bullet for boyfriend or I would help my boyfriend with whatever he needed. I hate to see him hurt so I would do anything to make him smile. My heart beats for him, I still get butterflies when he's around, and I don't have eyes for anyone else but him. There is no age that defines love, love can hit you at anytime but it's work it's not easy. It's different for everyone that's in love.
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Why do they say "high school is the best 4 years of your life?" Why? Isn't that only in the movies, cause everyone in high school says its all homework and tests and extremely hard. Why is it the best? Im 13/f and i go to high school this year but next school year (in 8th grade)
High School was the BEST 4 years of my life! I had some great times in high school, I was a teenage and I learned a lot both educationally and about myself. High school is where you grow into an adult and it almost shapes you before you get to college. When you're in high school, you want to leave but once you leave you want to go back. I remember when I was in high school I wanted to leave and now I want to go back so badly. I did some amazing things in high school like made friends, joined some choirs, went to prom, and graduated. Its the experiences you'll go through that make those 4 years amazing and special! Good luck and enjoy it! And whatever you do don't rush it, because 4 years goes by so quick!
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I suspect my girlfriend is cheating on me. How do i know? What signs do I look for?
Well why do you think she's cheating on you in the first place? People who cheat tend to be very sneaky or very quiet about things. If she seems off to you I would consider that to be a sign. If she is always checking her phone or texting someone or even going off into another room thats a sign. I would confront her if I were you. Ask he if she is and if she gets really defensive or can't look you in the eye than there's a possibly she might be cheating!
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There's nothing online or in books that can help me. Everywhere it says "i stuff my bra because i want boobs" all that to make it bigger! Well i dont want it! i want it smaller. I think getting periods are gross. I did get mine today and i hate it. I dont think i can ever except it! Im athletic and i dont have the time for girl stuff! I hate everything to do with puberty! Make matters worse when i walk out everyday with my outfit my mom cant look at my face when i talk she stares at my shirt and its awkward! help!
I don't think anyone likes puberty but we all go through it. It's just a way of life that you have to except. It's difficult to adjust to I realize but what's going on with your body right now you can't stop it. I would go to a library and look up some books on puberty or something just to learn more about what's going on.
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well basically, i really want a baby because ive been thinking alot about it and i just think its time for me to have a baby. Ive said to my partner but he said he doesnt think we are ready until he gets a full time job.. and a car even though he has a licence. I know i dont have a full time job at the minute as im in full time education but i really do want a baby, what should i do?
A baby is a lot of responsibility as I'm sure you already have heard. I would figure things out before going out and having a baby. You want to be stable and without a job how are you going to pay for all the expenses. Babies aren't cheap you know? Also your partner doesn't want one right now. Babies are nice to think about but you need to be ready for one. I understand where you are coming from, I can't wait to have kids but right now I'm not in the right place to have kids at the moment. Right now I have a kitten and I love taking care of him. He's my 'baby'. Have fun for right now because that will all change when you have children I'm sure !!
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I am in a situation where I can no more decide anything. Life has turned out to be a nightmare and I just want to wake up from that dream by killing myself. Please help me. I want to die. Don't I have the right to be happy?
There are things in life that are throw at us but we as humans have to face it. 'What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger'. Have you ever heard of that saying? It's so true. I've been through some tough things in my life but I've become stronger because of it. I don't know what you're going through and I'm not saying its easy but killing yourself isn't going to fix it. It doesn't solve the problem facing it will. Do you have anyone to talk to? Do you go to school? Do you know someone you can trust? Talk to someone and I'm sure you'll feel a lot better. I know this maybe be hard as well but try and think positive. If you ever need to talk to someone please feel free to email at xx_angel_eyesxx@hotmail.com
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