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hey. i'm 14 and is a girl of many interests and doesn't limit myself to what i can hold. i'm scared of a lot of things, but my life long goal is to conquer them. i love to help people's love lives, especially the ones that remind me of the ones i've had and have right now. i don't like having a lot of time in my hands because it makes me think of things i don't wanna think about. like past relationships, my current life, etc. but i guess it's okay to do that sometimes. as for the moment, i'm pretty much in love with my guy best friend. i asked him out. he said no. we're still good friends. he said that our friendship is more important and will last longer than a relationship. yea i agree. but, you know that feeling of emptiness, and you feel like only one person can fill it? well, that's how i'm feeling right now. i feel empty without him in my life as more than a friend. anyways. i'm here for anything, and i'll try my best to give you advice and such. my AIM is : WANNA BE iiN LUV. feel free to IM me if you need help. =)

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i really want a cute loveing boyfriend that is sweet. but i cant find him and idk how to...i mean im not fat or ugly. but i still cant find some1 who likes me. i neede aome advicee.


thanks

you can't rush these kinds of things. this is one of those things that will just kind of come naturally. just be patient. it will come to you. one day, you'll find a boy that you'll have a lot in common with. start being friends with him, and then see if he would like to go out with you. it's better to gain a friend than to gain a boyfriend then lose him a while after.

if you need anything else, just message me.

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About a month ago, i just got out of one of my first serious relationships. During that relationshipp i was stressed with school and friends because me &my boy ajhungouteveryday and i started to lose friends. Everytime i tried to make sometime for my friends me and aj would get into a hugee fight, but dont get me wrong we were just soo in love. Well i guess we were atleast, i knew i was. We broke up once i balled my eyes out, then we got back together things were going AMAZING. then one day when he came home from vacation we were supposed to hang out but i was staying with a friend cause my parents were away, so i told him we could chill with my friend for like an hour then go back to his house. He gets all mad we get into this huge fight about how he says i dont care about him, when i really did. We broke up and havent talked much since then and then two weeks after he gets back with the girl he was with before me. So anyways, im still in love with the kid, and im wondering if he is too cause it always seems like hes trying to make me jealous, plus everything he once said to me in our relationship like i love you so much baby no one can ever compare and a bunch of other thigs like that. Well from a past experience, ive learned to move on so i did. I like this kid, and last night we hooked up. Afterwards, first thing that can to my mind was aj. How am i ever supposed to be with another guy or move on when all i see is aj.. i need help or advice pleasee! & thank you=/

hi. i've been through the same thing, about a year ago. first off, you can never stop loving your first serious boyfriend. i don't know how long you two were together, but my first serious relationship lasted for about 5-6 months. i broke up with him because he was going to another school, and i wanted to save him the pain of not hooking up with girls that he liked. but i missed him and cried every night soo much after i broke up with him, but i decided i didn't want to get back with him, because then it'll be more painful when we break up again. the best thing was to move on. maybe it was too soon to hook up with somebody? i hooked up with somebody about a month after the break-up, but then i broke up with him like, 3 weeks after, because i still had feelings for my ex. so maybe you should not be in a relationship for a while, until you know in your mind AND heart that you're ready to have another relationship. throughout this time, i know you'll miss everything you've done with aj and would want to go back with him. but DON'T! it's not going to help, it'll probably make it worse. best thing to do is to just hang out with your girlfriends, and have fun. keep aj out as much as possible. if you're trying to get him out of your life, it's not going to happen. your first serious relationship will always be there no matter how much you might have thought you moved on. i think that he still have feelings for you, but he just doesn't wanna show it the way girls might show it. leave him be; let him date whoever he wants, because if you're his first serious relationship also, he'll never forget you, and if it was meant to be, you two might get back together in the future.

hope i helped.

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Okay.
I just broke up with my boyfriend four days ago because I didn't have feelings for him anymore. The thing is, I now have feeling for my other ex. We went out for two months and he broke up with me because he cheated. (He didn't want me to break up with him first) Well, he's kind of a player and also likes three other girls but he tells me all the time he likes me the most. I seriously don't know what to do. I know he's changed because when he cheated on me the whole school wanted to beat him up (I'm well-liked, I guess) and we're friends so I don't think he'd do that again.

i seriously think that you shouldn't always believe him. if he hurt you or other girls in a way that made you feel REALLY bad about yourself, why should you still trust him? don't get me wrong, it's great that y'all are still friends [[believe me, i wish my ex and i are still friends... friends that actually tell each other things]], but it doesn't mean that you should ALWAYS trust everything he says. even though i don't know you, i'm sure your a smart person. a person who knows when to believe what is said to you, and when to not believe in it.

hope i helped! good luck!

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i have a wonderful boyfriend of almost 2 months.. but i keep finding myself watching older sophmore guys thinking how hott they are and how itd be so cool if they knew me and liked me. my bf is great but im crushing on a guy who doesnt even know me. hes a year older and i was just wondering your thoughts and maybe stuff to do to get this guy to notice && love me. thanks

well, i personally think that you should just say, 'hey, i was wondering if i can get to know you better' or something like that. don't wait for him to notice you, because that really might take a while, or might not happen at all. just say that you think that you might be interested in getting to know him better, but don't let him get in the way of your relationship with your boyfriend. although, you might have troubles if your boyfriend sees you talking to the other guy. i guess you should tell your boyfriend about what you wanna do, because if he's as wonderful as you say he is, he would understand that you wanna be friends with a guy, so that he won't have to mistaken you and the other guy flirting or anything bad like that.

hope i helped! good luck!

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Okay so theres this guy, and i have liked him for the longest time. He knows too but he acts like he just doesnt care. He tells me he likes me and says all this cute stuff then the next day he tells me he doesnt like me. He always hurts me but i would still do anything to be with him. He said the reason why he doesnt like me is cause i have a rep. of being a slut but it really isnt true at all. How do i get him to like me, and know the rep. isnt ture?? Im 14

i think that you should just tell him straight up that the rep. isn't true. it's always good to just stay true to whoever you like. however, if he keeps changing his mind about you, it means that he's not really sure how he feels about you, and that's not really too much of a good idea to be with somebody who's not sure of how he feels about you. even if the rep. is true, which i know isn't, if he really likes you, the rep. shouldn't matter to him.

just think everything over, and hopefully, you'll have a better idea of how you feel about him. hope i helped you! good luck!

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