i just need some one to talk to my famiy are all really mean to me i cant take it any more . the drama i just wanna walk away and disappear for ever but that is just not a option , i went walking in the woods behind my house they called cops on me said i was suicidal . when i came home they hand cuffed me and forced me to go to er to be evaluated omg . is there anyway i can disappear? change my identity? so i can be left alone by these people ?
I'm not really sure what is causing your family to react in the way they do. Not saying you have, but have you done anything to make them believe that you might hurt yourself? Has there ever been an event in time where maybe you said something or did something that might suggest you would hurt yourself. I know it might be hard to see but your family cares about you and wants to protect you. I'm sure how old you are or if you go to school but maybe talking to a guidance counselor would be best or maybe another adult you trust. Have you talked to friends? Try and reach out to someone close to you I feel that, that would be best for you at the moment.
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I have alot of friends, who did talk behind my back a little, but always would confess and say sorry, but since this other girl came, she has stolen all my friends, now they all hate me! I don't want her her! I have NO friends and she tells them to never talk to me or they'll do something and never talk to them! It makes me mad!
You should get new friends! Your "friends" sound like fair-weathered friends. They sound like they do anything to please themselves and they don't care if they hurt others while doing it. For people to act that way I'll never understand. I had a friend that I was really close to and she ended up hanging out with some girls that didn't care for me. I didn't have many friends either. It hurt me when she did this but I realized I didn't want to involve myself with her if she was going to hang out with people that didn't treat me right. You need to stand up for yourself and get away from these girls! Meet some new people who will actually be there for you!
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So i was suppose to start my period on the 22nd of October and i started the 24th so i was two days late . now im 4 days into my period but the third day it was light and now today its brown? any help? im alittle confused and i took a pregnancy test because me and my boyfiend have been having sex every weekend and i was alittle worried but it was negative.. Help please.
Periods are weird. Most of the time your period will be heavy on the first two days and then it gets lighter as the days go on. I'm sure it's fine. Have you used protection at all? You should be fine and if you're really concerned then you should go see your doctor and get a blood test done to see if your pregnant. Those pregnant aren't always right. Good luck and I'm sure everything is fine.
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i have a self esteem ,self image problem .i know it effects everyone and everything in my life but do not know how to fix it.i take everything said the wrong way and respond the wrong way. i dont trust anyone.i gained weight because someone called me a skinny bitch a few times and over heard a women tell another that they should watch their husbands around me.now 10 years later i am 50 lbs over weight,have now friends,no job,no life.i went to see a counciler and she basically said until i want to change she cant help me, somehow i think that was what i was paying her for?maybe i am just meant to be this sad pitiful person that i am. No one deserves to be a sad or pitful person!
I know it maybe hard to believe but everyone has a problem with themselves some just cover it up better than others. I always question myself in everything I do and I always analyze things it drives my friends crazy. I usually get over it but it always seems to come back once in a blue moon. I would say try seeing another therapist because that one sure as hell doesn't know how to do her job. It's best to talk things out with someone or to even rant once in awhile that way you aren't holding it all in. I sometimes hold things that are bothering me in because I just do. Eventually when I talk it out or I say something to someone about it I feel a lot better and I have a huge sigh of relief. As far as your weight, if you're unhappy then you need to change. Maybe start exercising more and maybe start making healthier choices. As for people talking, you're always going to come into contact with that because unfortunately some people in this world didn't leave high school. I was recently on a train and there were two women (both in their 40s or 50s) and they talked about me right in front of my face. I couldn't believe that women at that age would do such a thing. Normally it would bother me but I go the strength to stand up for myself so I got up out of my sit said "Excuse me" and than "I hope you have a great day". That pissed her off so much but it made me smile and it made me so proud of myself. It's all about standing up for yourself and not letting other people walk all over you. If you're not going to stand up for yourself who will? And if their going to talk let them talk it's makes them look immature. I have been through a lot but right now I'm staying positive and thinking positive because I know my worth. Keep your head up and if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me at: xx_angel_eyesxx@hotmail.com
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IT's almost 12 at night and I have school tomorrow. I'm tired of my oldest sister living in our home. Her time is overdue and she runs the entire upstairs and the house, eats up the majority of our food, is greedy,selfish,and disrespectful. She has no common sense at all. I can never sleep in my room or down stairs on the couch cuz I hear the her showering since she doesn't close the door and her room door light is on as well. Our house is a ipen house, it has normal walls with openings like a window with no glass so you can hear everything. It's like arches. So I can't ever sleep. I'm only 5 feet and am 14....what do I do. My mom doesn't take it seriously yet she is always scolding me on getting to bed on time and all of that crap. Can someone help me? I want to start going to bed early but cant because of my sister. If only YOU KNEW......
No one has the perfect home or gets along with their family all the time. I'm the oldest and I have a younger sister and we bicker a lot. I always thought when she was younger she was disrespectful and ignorant. Now looking back I didn't help much with the situation. When my sister listened to her music she would blast it like her room was a bar or club it was so obnoxious. Maybe what you should do is get some ear plugs and maybe a sleeping mask. And remember there might be some things that you do that might annoy sister. At the end of the day she is your sister and you're going to have to learn how to live with her. And later on when you move out you'll have to deal with whomever you are living with because there is always going to be something that bothers you with the person you are living with. Good luck!
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Well im 15 f and im a sophomore. I just got my plan(act) results back and i got a 16 which is like kinda below average! Ok and my family is really smart everyone my sisters and my mom but me i didn't get the smart gene. People in my school got at least 19 or higher. I feel stupid and im not pretty so im not smart enough for my family/ what i want to be when im older. I want to be a dentist or dental hygienist. Also my friends are super smart. Im crying i have to show my dad in a couple minutes. Its not fair! Im not a bad person and yet i get terrible qualities. I told my sister and she was like are you serious that goes on your transcript for colleges. But the plan test is just a practice!!well my point is i feel like i shouldn't be here like i don't belong i kinda want to just die and not just bc im not that smart. No im not gonna kill myself but im not happy i haven't been happy for a long time!
You know the ACT test and the SAT tests prove nothing. It's a bunch of information that I feel isn't even worth being tested on. I have never tested well in my life ever since 3rd grade I just never did well on tests. I would study my butt off but I would never get really good grades. My SAT I bombed...and it's not because I didn't try it was just how it happened. I put myself down when it happened and my friend told me it doesn't make me a bad person and it doesn't make me dumb either. I have a reading language based learning disability and I also have ADD. I thought for the longest amount of time that I would never amount to anything. I thought I was dumb and that for the rest of my life if I needed to understand something I would need help. I didn't think I would graduate high school or even go to college. And I did just that. Give yourself more credit and don't let this test tell you who you are or what your future is going to look like. I know this has nothing to do with school but look at Michael Jordan. When he went to college in North Carolina he didn't make the basketball team and he use to practice like crazy. Now look at him, he's known as one of the greatest basketball players in history. I know you might feel like the black sheep of your family but guess what you're different and that's something you should embrace. Do what makes you happy and find hobbies that make you happy. That test doesn't define you, you can create your own destiny. Good luck and keep your head up!
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Few days ago, ever since I started working out in the gym, I've started to feel this on-and-off itchiness on my lower back area and I scratch it a little. The next thing I know, I started to feel these little bumps around the same area. It's kinda hard for me to see them very well since they're on my back, but they kinda look like several bug bites. I don't think it is a regular rash and it's probably not eczema either since I already have them twice. So I did some research on about my symptoms and I have come to the conclusion that it could possibly be either hives or heat rash. I heard that a lot of people would develop heat rash from sweating, heat, and exposure to other bacteria. As for hives, I just heard that people would get them from allergic reactions and that it could be a viral infection. Could working out in the gym be the cause of either one of these symptoms? Especially since I've been exposed to dust and dirt from the equipments and the either one of these symptoms could be the cause of I thought both of these symptoms make sense especially since I've been exposed to a lot of dust and dirt from the gym equipments and the gym floor? Plus I have been sweating a lot and did a lot of yoga.
I'm not a doctor by any means. You might be allergic to something and maybe that's why you are breaking out. If it's not an emergency (ex: no fever, no pain) than I would call the doctor and make an appointment. Tell the office what your symptoms are and they will base that on whether or not you need to come in for an appointment asap or within a week or so. For the mean time I would refrain from touching the rash at all but maybe apply a little bit of lotion to an area and see how that goes. If it helps I would continue to apply the lotion on the other parts of the rash. I hope you feel better and good luck!
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Can a college see your twitter profile if you have it set on private? And do colleges even check Twitter? I don't have have a Facebook (deactivated it months ago) but I'm always worried that colleges will find a way to check my tweets even though they are private. I don't have anything serious on twitter, but a lot of my tweets are basically complaining! If colleges can see that, I'm ready to deactivate that too.
It's more likely that a job will check your facebook or twitter account than a college that you're attending. I mean can you imagine all the applicants that they are going through and all the students they have. They would have a lot of time on their hands to check every single students facebook or twitter everyday. I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you.
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My roommate and I got along fine at the beginning of the semester, but things got really tense around the time midterms started. She stopped talking to me, and started listening to music really loud all the time. I asked her what was going on with our situation and she first said that I was a "know-it-ass" and that I should clean up my side of the room, and then a couple weeks later complained that she didn't feel comfortable in the room because I had been sleeping in late (I had been sleeping in late due to anxiety/depression). She told me that she wouldn't have agreed to room with me if she had known I had anxiety. She also frequently turns my alarm off in the morning. We've agreed to both try to move out for next semester, but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do in the meantime to make things less stressful.
I have had some room mates from hell let me tell you. A girl asked me to room with her and oof course I had hung out with her for a bit and thought she was cool so I agreed. She became so selfish while living with her she got to pick out how the room looked and when to go to sleep and who was allowed in the room a lot. It made me feel isolated and I was very unhappy. The RA got involved it was a huge mess. I finally moved out because I couldn't even stand the sight of her anymore. I don't speak to her because of it either. Its a shame that things happen the way they do but maybe you could really sit down and have an honest conversation with her. You girls have a couple more months of living with each other so its better to make the best of it. You don't have to be best friends but maybe find a common ground and common respect for each other and how you live. Once you leave that room though and get another room mate its not always for sure that you are going to find another room mate that you can get a long with. Living with someone is hard and you have to make some adjustments and be respectful of the other person as well. Be the bigger person! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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I'm a 13/f.I'm a cutter,and have been for a long time.Sometimes,I think of cutting my arteries on purpose,and let myself bleed to death.Some people say that I should see a mental doctor,to help with my suicidal thoughts,but I'm not gonna see one.Am I crazy for having these thoughts?
It sounds like you suffer from depression. I'm not a doctor so I can't say for sure though. You should talk to someone, you NEED to talk to someone. If there is something going on in your life or something is bothering you than talking to someone is going to take a bit of weight off your shoulders. I don't taking cutting or suicide lightly because I knew a girl who committed suicide and it's affected a whole community. You should speak to someone you are comfortable with maybe a friend, teacher, guidance counselor, a parent, or a family member. Please go to talk to someone there is help out there.
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I'm twelve years old and I'm stuck in class with fourteen year olds. The work is pretty straightforward and easy, but I always feel out of place when around other girls. They're all very nice, but they wear makeup, short skirts, tight tops, and high heels, and I'm always in sweatpants. They all seem so flawless and sophisticated, but my hair and face are always greasy and acne is ruining my complexion. Even worse, guys won't even look at me! I'm so sick of being the odd one out!
You know the makeup, short skirts, tight tops, and high heels aren't everything you know. I went to high school everyday in sweat pants and a sweatshirt. I dressed up once in awhile but not everyday. I always thought to myself who am I dressing up for? I was more comfortable in the sweatpants than in a skirt. I had a lot of problems with acne when I was younger I just had to start a routine with washing my face day and night. I even have some acne once in awhile now and its something I have to deal with. I know you look at those girls thinking why can't I be them or dress like them? Be comfortable with who you are and what you're wearing and with how you look. Being younger doesn't have anything to do with it, its rather being comfortable with who you are. Maybe when you get older you might consider dressing up or wearing makeup. Don't go along with that just because the other girls are doing it. Do what you want because it's what you want to do and it's what makes you feel happy.
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So a year ago almost to the day my boyfriend of one year who was also my best friend of four years and I broke up. We had all the same friends and at first we just avoided each other. Well he dumped me and I got over it and got a new boyfriend (who I am no longer with) But every time I go to parties and he's there he tells our friends to make me leave, so I have to leave, and if I call ahead and he finds out I am coming he makes one of his friends call and say I can't come. So basically every time my friends have a get together the ones that are more his friends than mine make it so I can't come, and the ones that are more mine than his just ditch me. So I sit at home feeling upset I couldn't go. Why is he doing this? He has no feelings for me whatsoever and I feel like it's been over a year so why would he still be angry? I've never told any of his secrets or spoke badly of him. I've tried talking to him, and getting our friends to see why this is happening. But I am really sick of feeling this way and not being able to be around all my friends. Someone please help....
Your ex boyfriend is being very childish and a bit selfish as well. I can understand a break up can be hard but he's making a little bit harder by acting like this. Your mutual friends shouldn't be acting this way either and its not fair that you're missing out on things because of his behavior. My first boyfriend and I had a rough patch after our break-up. We didn't really speak but a whole bunch of drama went down. Of course it was awkward for a few years because he would always make a big deal about being in the same place or hanging around the same people. It wasn't until a year or two ago that we came to an agreement. We don't have to love each other we should just be civil to one another. What's the point in fighting? And there's a lot of negative energy that's going on trying to ignore on another we should just be civil. And we are. He's not my best friend but we talk and its much more of a positive situation than what it was before. Is there anyway for you to call him and come to an agreement or something? Try talking to him and telling him whats going on. If he isn't responsive I would talk to your mutual friends and get their in take on it. If you can't get an answer from anyone I would just move on and maybe find a new group of friends to hang out with.
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So I'm babysitting for the first time on Saturday, one is eight years old and another is about 3. Okay, so what do you do-do you just sit there like what someone did to me when I was little? Or do you play, or have fun or what? Seriously any advice welcome
I took a babysitting course and I've been babysitting my little cousins for 11 years. The best thing to do is play some games or get a fun movie to watch. Maybe you can make a fun box with dress up things or maybe some games from home. Maybe you have some stuffed animals that you don't want anymore and put them in the box. An easy thing would be a movie before they go to bed. Kids like to play though and they like to be entertained so if I were you I would try to start a game. See how the kids are first and see if they warm up to you. The kids might just want to watch a movie or their favorite TV show. Maybe read them a book before bed. Have fun and good luck!
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Why does me parents never see that they are hurting each Other. Why can't they see what there words are so powerful. And that they are losing me now.
I'm not sure what you're exactly talking about or what's going on but my parents when I was younger use to fight. I can remember small things here and there and the environment wasn't comfortable due to the tension. Parents fight it happens and everyone fights in the world. There is no person in this world who hasn't had an argument with someone in their life. It doesn't make your parents stupid though, its something that adults do. When you become an adult there are a lot more responsibilities than when you were a little kid. You have to remember its not you and that you don't have to take a side. They love you equally I'm sure. Maybe talk to your parents about how they are making you feel and about how you don't like it when they fight. Can you talk to someone at school? Like a guidance counselor? A teacher? A family member? Try and talk to your parents and if that doesn't work try and talk to someone you trust about it. Remember this has nothing to do with you and it's not because of you.
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My mom always gives my sister stuff. She got a present. And I didn't. I tried telling her but then she just yell at me. Pleas help. I can't go on any longer. From crying me
I looked at this question and it took me back to my years when my sister and I were so competitive. When I was younger I had a learning disability and I needed a lot of attention. I would have to go see doctors and I needed extra help in school. I got a bit more attention than my sister and I don't think she liked it very much. Sometimes when we have siblings they might need a bit more attention. It doesn't mean that your parents careless about you and it doesn't mean they don't love you. So what if your sister got a present? It doesn't make her better and it doesn't mean she is loved more. Don't think about what you don't have think about what you have and be grateful!
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I've been contemplating suicide for a good time now. I'm struggling with homosexuality and my faith. Faith says that it's wrong yet I feel driven towards homosexuality and I feel guilty for acting on it. Idk what to do... I just kinda wanna be gone so all those problems will be gone. I guess I'm just depressed and it's doing things to me
Faith should not be the thing that controls your life. Faith should be something that helps you be spiritual. Faith should never define who you are. You define who you are. If you're gay then you're gay. Faith not believe in homosexuality but that doesn't mean you can't be gay. I always found myself questioning the church about how they didn't except homosexuality. My question is doesn't God except all people no matter what? I was taught when I was a little girl that everyone is equal no matter who they are and you except people for who they are. Killing yourself is not going to create a solution its going to cause more of a problem. Think of all the people you would leave behind and how they would wonder what happened. Think about the people who are suffering just like you and how they are in the same boat as you. The solution to this problem is getting up and giving a good fight. If you're gay then be proud of who you are. It's not something shameful, of course that's what the media, politics, and faith have made it seem. It's not shameful be proud of yourself. Ignore those people who are ignorant, they don't know any better because they are hating something they don't understand. I know you feel alone and you feel like there is no way out but you have to understand killing yourself is not going to help. Choose to be you and forget about faith controlling who you are. BE YOU!
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what can i do to not be jealous of my boyfriend? what can i do to trust him?
Why are you jealous of your boyfriend? Is it because he gets a lot of attention? Does he hang around with other girls? And as far as trust goes you need that in your relationship. Without trust there is no relationship. What I have always said, is that there are two main things in a relationship which are trust and communication. When something goes wrong in a relationship the best thing to do is to talk it out. Everyone is so quick to break up instead of fixing the problem and making sure that everyone is happy. For years and years when I was dating, I had boyfriends who I couldn't talk to. I wasn't allowed to talk to them and I always wanted to be with someone that could be my boyfriend but also be a friend as well. My boyfriend and I know have great communication and trust. It's unbelievable because whenever there is a problem we fix it. If something is bothering me I tell him. If I said something to upset him, he tells me. We work it out. Trust is something that you need to have with your boyfriend. Talk to him and tell him what's bothering you!
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I was with my boyfriend for quite awhile yesterday. Today, he was sick with the flu. I haven't felt sick all day, Now about 8 pm, i start feeling a little sick to my stomach. Is it possible that he could've given me the flu. or would i have gotten sick sooner?
It's hard to really tell! I mean of course if you kissed your boyfriend than chances are you were more likely to get it from him. However if there has been a bug going around than you might have caught it suddenly. The best thing to do is get some rest and take care of yourself. You want to make sure you drink lots of water and get lots of sleep. I hope you and your boyfriend feel better!
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My bff is moving away how am i supposed to cope with her leaving me FOREVER?! We were bffs since 3rd grade or something. And now it's 6th grade and she is leaving the summer before 7th grade! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!
I'm sorry to hear that, it can be really tough! I've had that happen many times I make friends and they move away. As much as you hate to she her go, you have to let her go. You can always stay in touch and send emails back and forth or maybe go visit once in awhile. I know it won't be the same but you'll figure out a way. It doesn't mean you two won't be friends anymore.
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I am 17/F I am a senior in high school I am 5'8 I weigh 110 lbs. yes, I am underweight so i am tall, and skinny and i have small boobs. and i hate it. i wish they were bigger. I've asked a similar question and was told to be happy with my body and blah blah blah not to worry what other people think, but this isn't about other people this is more for myself. i cant afford a boob job, nor would i probably ever do that, but im not sure. do you think maybe they're still growing? i only wear an A and when i push on them (usually anytime) its kind of sore. and sometimes feels like a little harder. not like squishy normal boobs that you can just grab. (the only way i can explain it) so what should i do?
I had the same problem in high school and I think I was about your age. I don't know if it was because I was a late bloomer or I gained weight but my boobs grew. Everyone is different so I don't know what's going to happen with you but it is possibly that they could grow. A lot of people told me I should be happy with myself when I wanted bigger boobs. I didn't believe them but now I look back and see I should've been happy with what I had. It's okay now but I guess its like that saying 'the grass is greener on the other side'.
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