...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
Gender: Female
Location: CA
Occupation: student
AIM: BreathingxDeeply
Yahoo: SuNkiStDeLonGe
Member Since: December 1, 2003
Answers: 547
Last Update: May 28, 2007
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wuz up shay?well toget 2 it im male and i like this girl and it seems like sheis always flirtin with me.But i dnt no how i can tell if she relly is.is there any signs 2 let me no? (link)
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Ask her who she likes if she refuses to tell you who she likes with a big smile thats #1. #2 is she smiles when you two make eye contact. #3 is she asks you who you like and then critisizes her. Catch her staring at you etc. Glad to be a help.
-shay :-)
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I got my period 2 days before school started hwich was september secound, I got my period August 31st, And it sbeen coming like the first of every month and I've had it for about 3 months now, and then all of a sudden its already the 6th of december and it hasnt come yet. . is this normal. . I ams till a virgin!!! I havent had sex or anything!! Please help! (link)
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Yes, yes your normal. Dont worry! When you first start you tend to skip a week or a couple days.KKKK. No worrys.
-shay :-)
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thanks! You can ask me a question any day! lol bye 4 now! (link)
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question:I dont know who you are. How can I ask you a question. lol! And your welcome.
-shay :-)
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I guess I like to keep the convo goin, sry mabye we should talk on aim or yahoo or something, so we culd talk and forget about advice lol. . i duno! U r so nice tho, with the advice!!!!
One more ? . . .
I wan't to wear ifferent clothing like differnt styles a little more wild like punk or something, but I dont know wut my mom will think if she will let me. . and what my friends will think, if the will just stop being friends with me, and wut if shawn *my crush* likes me and then I wear thiss tuff he doesnt like me anymore, but i know if he really liked me he woudklnt care wut I wore!! But wut do I do, I mean I wanna whole new look, a look that exspresses me. .I've been wearing this style for yrs! ITS TIME FOR A CHANGE! please help me figure out wut I should do!??!?!?! (link)
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Thank you for the compliment! You totally made my day! Well to your question change is good...sometimes. Before you do change your style it is always good to check things. Like your parents as you said. They are the biggest part because they are usually the ones to buy your clothes and you are living under their roof. If its okay with them check with friends see for there approval. If so dont come to school completley changed. Every other day or so add something new to your outfit. Little by little.KKKKK
-shay :-)
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I know that, but I dont want to wait, he acts like a goof. . whenever Im near him its like I duno! We were outside at recess it was rlly cold and we were out int he field, me my friends and him and his friends and he wa sliek I cant feel my toes, it wa slike ok. .and then his friend *My frined too* stepped on his foot *on purpose* an dhe sai oooooowwwwwww. . it was soo funny and my frined said if u cnat feel ur toes how did u feel that? i felt so angry at her. . uggh lol Well I am obsessed wit him. . .Hes sooo cute!!!! (link)
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Okay I dont get this. I read it at least five times and I dont understand. Is this a question? I gave you my advice and that is all I can offer. If you really want to go up to him and talk do it! Whatever floats your boat.
-shay :-)
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If i tyr talking to this kid I will freak out!!! I act dumb aroudn him, cuz Im not thta shy as I wa sbefore, 1st dya of school I saw him and totally fell in love with him! I just can't stop thinking about him! U know this is crazy life lol. . (link)
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Dear shy (again,lol!),
Well I didnt tell you to try talking to him! Just let him come to you. And relax. Try breathing inside the nose and out the mouth. It really works. Just dont make any loud noices!j/k.
-shay :-)
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Why would I feel bad that he cheated on me and abused me and made me cry everynight? I gave him a lot of chances and I shouldn't have. All that was HIS doing. And I don't think about him in a LOVING way.
Sincerely,
Dreams (link)
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Dear dreams,
What I meant was that your HEART feels bad. You loved him, he cheated, you hurt.Its like a feeling in the gut. You cant think of anything else, but that. So thats the dreaming process. Make sence? If not come back Ive got a couple books on dreams. I'll read some definitions.KKKK
-shay :-)
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I am tooo shy I swear. . !!! I really like this guy, but whenever I'm around him I get so nervouse and dontt alk I just sit there! He got mad at me once, because we were doign somethign and I wouldn't sya anything, but when he left I was talking up a storm, taking control! it was like he was soo hott, and Uggh! I don't know what to do. . I'm not sure if he likes me, but I caught him staring at me. . But that doesnt mean he likes me right?? I want to ask him out so badly, but I'm afraid he doesnt like me and I am just too nervous to ask him myself!!!
What I'm trying to ask is, Why am I so nervous around him, and why don't I have the guts to go up to him and tell him that I love him and I really want to go out with him?"
*Sorry about typos* . .if there are any!!! lol (link)
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Dear shy,
lol! You seem to be nervous because you cant think of anything to say. You want to talk about the perfect subject, but your brain is going out of control and boggling itself. Just RELAX!!!girl. Stay cool. Try yoga. HAHA j/k.
-shay :-)
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Our english teacher just started a creative writing club and we just had a meeting to come up with a club name that's unique and fun. Well we got absolutely nowhere, and since I'm secretary and club organizer I have to help decide a club name. And I can't think of ANYTHING! Please, if anyone has any ideas please email me, or post an answer. ASAP. Thanks!
~SweetSolaris~ (link)
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Dear sweetsolaris,
Hmm this is a hard one. Think of something you all are interested in. Say you all like the beach. How about "beachbums" or"soaked sun". (You know sheryl crow) Well anywayz hope you find a name!
-shay :-)
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my friend likes this guy we hang around with. But the problem is that he doesnt like her even though when there alone he kisses her. The biggest problem is that me and him interacts very well and we kissed i mean really kissed and my friend knows that i dont like him so she doesnt mind after all the shit he has said about her. Am i being a good friend? if not how can i.
P.S. i secretly like him. (link)
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Dear friend help,
I dont think either of you two are being very good friends to eachother. And you probably shouldnt be kissing guys that your not going out with. Does your friend know you kissed him. Im thinking not. Tell her what happened and your consionce will be free.
-shay :-)
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ok i want to finger myself but im not sure how to i know u r supposed to put ur finger in ur hole but i dont get pleasure doing that what should i do? (link)
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Why do you want to do that? Im sure it is no pleasure though I havent tried. I dont intend to either. You shall just wait until you are in the married life for an expierience like that.
-shay :-)
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Okay,
So I think most of you know about my ex-boyfriend issue. And my last questions subject was "ex-boyfriend gone mad" Well, I have a NEW and better BF, and I told my parents and they talked to my ex-boyfriends parents and sorted everything out, kinda. But now I never get to see my ex-boyfriend. And I'm not crying about it either. But I DO see him in my dreams, and I don't know why! In my dreams he acts like he use to act when we wasn't abusive and lieing. In my dreams he acts like the person that I use to like. But then, toward the end of my dream there's this voice that says to me that he's no longer like that person. And I no that, so why and I having dreams about him?? I need your advice!
Sincerely,
Dream (link)
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Dear dream,
You are having dreams about this guy because because either you are feeling bad about it or its because that is all you are thinking about. Dont think so much.
-shay :-)
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What should I ask you? (link)
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lol! You tell me.
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ok my older sister is such an @$$ she makes things up and makes me bad
she makjes it look like she is the perfect one i mean i am not jelous but i need some combacks anything will do (link)
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Older sisters always want to make themselves look perfect in front of there little sisters and I should know. Do it all the time! Well you should try blackmale. If you know some grub thret to tellher friends. She'll be eat'n out of your hand!
-shay :-)
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i just slept with a classmate of mine. But the problem is i dont know how i will face him at school. Also did i mention his not my boyfriend and i am afraid he'll use it against me. even though we promised each other not to tell anyone even my best friend. Also i am not sure whether he likes me more than just a friend even thought we dont interact that much in school. What do i do? (link)
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You have given me no age so this question shall be a bit hard to answer. Why would he use this against you if he did the same thing you did? I think this should remain in the hands of you two. Your little secret as it should be. Though sleeping with a classmate you are no married to would make you a ho, and you shouldnt have done that. Since you cannot erase the past just dont do that in the future.
-shay :-)
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Is it just me or are some women/girls SO FUCKIN STUPID? I don't know one single girl who doesn't talk about her own friends behind their back, and the number of girls i know who obsess over makeup is astoundingly large(i'm 13). I'm a girl, most of my friends are girls, but I'm finding that guys are a little bit easier to get along with. Yeah, they're idiots, but they get over arguments easier and don't make a big deal over fights and stuff. And sometimes you need a goofball to make you laugh. I consider my self a feminist, and am trying to ween my friends off of makeup and back-stabbing(it's working :)). So: Do women change as they get older? Get less insane? At all? (link)
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No Im sorry girls stay the same. You know if you think about girls have alot to lie about. Padded bras, makeup, hair die etc. Sorry but theres just no changing human nature.
-shay :-)
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Right. Er... hi. I have a problem, and I was hoping you could solve it. Okay... there's these two guys that I like. One is over the internet, and the other in in real life. You see, the boy over the internet, Will, is a real sweetheart. I like him a lot, and we kinda blanace eachother's emotions. I'm hyperactive, and he can calm me down, and he's deressed, and I can cheer him up. I really like Will a lot. But then there's this boy named Colin. I just met him this year, but we have a lot in common. And he lets me hug him and stuff, and we're good friends. But lately he's been kinda distant from me. Normally, everyone says that I should just stick with Colin, but I keep getting these feelings that he doesn't want to be more than just friends, while with Will, he's kinda let on that he at least likes me in that way a little bit. But I need help trying to figure out what to do! Please help!!! (link)
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First of all NEVER go with a guy on the internet. For all you know he could be an crude old man! Its better to stick with school or neighborhood relationships. Just trust me on this OK. I know I dont know you, but I feel for you on this one KKKK.
-shay :-)
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My friends are always gossiping about other people and Im not the type to do that kind of stuff.I just dont know how to get them to stop.~~~~~HELP~~~~~~ (link)
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Dear help,
Gossiping is a bad thing to do. To get them off the subjest try bringing a different subject up like your hobbies or shows.
-shay :-)
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about a year ago, for reasons that have yet to be explained, i started liking this guy at school. several months later, i found out that he liked me too. after a few weeks he asked me out. we had some communication issues from the start. he thought that i didn't like him, and i thought that he didn't like me. on the last day of school, we magaged to work things out, and proceeded to date all throughout the summer. things were great, and as much as it disgusts me to say it, it was the best 3 months of my life. school started, and to our amazement, we had all out classes together. but once school started, things started to go awry. he was getting more distant, and acting like a jerk a lot of the time, and not the sweet guy i had fallen in love with over the summer. the school danced finally rolled around, and though we hadn't discussed it, i had assumed that we'd meet there, and dance and have a great time. well i was wrong. he avoided me the whole time, and to add insult to injury, danced with another girl who i have never gotten along terribly well with. i was extremely pissed, but he just acted like nothing had happened. we never technically broke up, but i just assumed that we were no longer together. however, my friend informed me that he had told her we were still going out. so i have 2 questions: is it humanly possible for anyone to be that stupid, and is there anything i can do to get him back. i haven't forgiven him, but i can't deny the fact that i still love him. (link)
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For your first question usually thats the way stupid guys dont want to date anymore. And you can get back at him by doing the same thing he did to you. Though that shows another stupid mind. Just forget about him and over time it will blow away
-shay :-)
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Firstly, I'm a vegetarian. Secondly, I doubt Firstly's a word. Thirdish, I'm trying to get this girl off my back for being on! She keeps saying how, and i quote, "I mean c'mon. HAvent u gone 2 a restarant and smelt all the juicy things that include MEAT?!?" It's driving me INSANE! Help me shut her up... Please... (link)
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Oh my gosh she does sound insane. Maybe shes agains vegitarians. Try telling her after she tells you stuff bought meat, "Hey you ever woke up and smelt the coffee". I mean come on who is a loser like that?
-shay :-)
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