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Q: Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!

Try hinting, maybe give him more hugs or hold his hand more often. When the time is right it'll happen. Good luck hunny!

Q: HeY! Besides taking Midol or asprin, what a good way to realive or get rid of cramps?! ThAnKs!! I really need the advice! =)

Try two Advil or two IB Profin. That always helps me. If it doesn't help you could try a heating pad.

Q: Female almost 15...kay me n my bff r like....sisters we do everything together!!i tell her EVERYTHING..n we have been through sum reallly tough times but we got through em n she has ALWAYS been there for me..we go on vacas together n our familys r like each others seconds familys....well..okay b4 she had me she was really good friends with this one girl Alexa..and i have met alexa once..but alexa doesnt like me..she says she doesnt like me n i8m a bitch bc her current b/f was my b/f over 3 YEASR AGO!!! which i think is kinda dumb but i think its really bc i took Stephanie my bbf away from her a year ago...well 2 months or so ago stephanie alexa n alexas b/f n his good friend Kenny all hung out fer a weekand..well stephanie REALLLLY like Kenny...so she ditched me fer all them..n it got me really mad but i didnt mind bc i mostly had plans on tha couple weekands they all hung out..well then Kenny got a g/f n steph found out n she got REALLLY mad n she dropped kenny n started to ignore alexa again..well now kenny apologized to her n hes single now so alllll last weekand alexa steph kenny n all them hung out..n then yesterday i aked her if she had wanted to come ova n go siwmming in my pool bc she had owed me sum money fer a play ticket n i need tha money n she said "oh i cant bc me n my mom r going to tha cell phone place when she gets home from work" which i noe is a lie n she was guna go hang out with alexa bc i called her @ 1 in tha afternoon n her mom doesnt get home from work till 6 plus she NEVER asks her mom to do nething she just goes n does it...n then today i called her n i told her i needed tha money that she owed me by tha end of today n she said oh well i would come n kik it wid u n give u tha money but i cant bc i have plans with "other ppl" fer tha mall..n i noe fer a fact its alexa n all them...i dont need to be her doormat..i have other friends but its just we had/have a REALLY great friendship...i snapped on her today n i havent talked to her since...im soooo irratated n mad i dont noe what to do..i wanna talk to her but i dont really think she'll listen..n if she doesnt i think she might just lie n make up excuses..what SHOULD i do?? PlEaSe help thanx!!! x0o0x

Well, this is a pretty delicate situation. You should tell her that you are sorry for snapping at her, but you really don't appreciate how she's been acting lately. Try to be as patient as possible when you tell her this, because you don't want it to come out wrong. Maybe if there's still some bad feelings, you guys should take a break from eachother. Everyone needs some time away from people. It's okay not to hang out ALL the time. When you feel a little better, I'm sure you're friendship will still be strong. Good Luck hun!

Q: I have a crush on a guy that's I've known for 3 years. he is on year older than me and his younger sister, who is one year younger than me, is my best friend. I've had a crush on him for more than 4 years and we used to like each other, but not to the point of dating. She's told me that she THINKS he likes me too but we're not really sure. My mom and his mom are REAL good friends, but my mom is the boss and their mom is an employee, and according to my mom she doesn't want us to date or be anything more than friends because she's afraid if anythign will happen, it will ruin their relationship. My 3 questions are--How do I drop hints to let him know I still really like him? How do I know or get him to show that he likes me too? (because at times he can be a real bi0tch.) and how do i show my mom that if anything happens we'll stay friends? (i've already tried talking to her about it...) thx

Honestly, I really think you should just try to avoid going out with him. I mean if anything was to go bad in the relationship, you'd be losing a lot. Are you really willing to put a your friendship with his sister, your mom and his mom's relationship, and the friendship between you and him at risk? Relationships are tricky. You can't predict anything. Weigh the options one more time. I mean that's a lot to risk. Think about it.

Q: i was just wondering something.. so maybe you can help. well tonight... my bf fingered me.. and we've done it before.. but i guess we did it "rougher" this time... and i went into my bathroom once he left.. and i was bleeding... and it hurt.. and i was just wondering if this is normal? i dunno what it is... but yeah.. plz help!!

Yes, this is normal. When it gets a little rougher, it can penetrate skin. This causes you to start bleeding. It may be sore for the rest of the day, or maybe even the next day. What is sticking out is also normal. It should go back to normal or at least stop being red pretty soon.

Q: Hi school is just getting ready to start and i've been homeschooled for the last year,or so . How can I get my mom to put me back in school???
signed
help needed

Sit down with her, and tell her how you feel. Tell her you miss seeing your friends everyday and you need to be more social. Tell her that you'd rather go to school. When you think you have raised all the valid points you have and have her convinced. Then maybe to lighten the mood, say "but I'd really like it if you could help me with my homework". Good luck hunny!

Q: ok well ill get rite to the point. my friend asked me out like 3 weeks ago and i sed no. but no that i come to think of it i think i should have sed yes. but my sis says that i should just go ask him out but i told her that its to late and he prolly doesnt like me ne more. wut should i do? i dont wanna ask him out cuz i gess im scared that he would say no.

It's very unlikely that he isn't interested anymore, but if you don't want to ask him out...maybe you should try dropping hints. Start acting like you guys are together. Try holding his hands, looking into his eyes, or even hugging him more. Ask him if he's interested in anyone right now. He'll probably start picking up on the hints but if he doesn't ask you again, you're going to have to get bold. Casually bring up the subject about him asking you out. Start with something like do you remember when we hung out 3 weeks ago. Well, I've been thinking about it a lot lately. Well, if the offer is still valid...I'd love to go out with you. Relax, after you get out your feelings it'll feel a lot better. Good luck sweetie!

Q: I really really like someone but i dont think that they would go out with me so .. what am i supposed to do ? i really wanna tell him but he likes other people..?

Go ahead and tell him that you like him. I mean what do you have to lose? The worst possible thing that could happen is he doesn't like you back. Then at least you know he's not interested, so you can find someone else you might like. And who knows, maybe he does like you. Good luck hunny.