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I have all these people, who i thought were friends but now are talking behind my back and being sooo mean. I dont know, but lately iv noticed iv been attacked by all these haters. How do i win the croud back if you know what i mean?
well first you have to find out what the eff is going on. then you have to find out who started it and find someway to make it backfire on them. hit them with their own shit. talk to the people and tell them that whatever the person said is untrue or that it never happend. figure it out and get back to me as... OY i guess
IM a loser. i dont have many friends and i want to get to know people but im scared to talk to them? what should i do ?! please help me.
well you have to face your fear eventually. its not that big of a deal. just try it.. go up to them. you have to just do it
A guy i like likes this one girl. Everyone nos it. Hes my friend but i want to ask him out and i can't because he likes this girl and he'll never go out with anyone else. So now i have to live with that. i guess he should get the girl he likes better, then the girl thats his friend that -actually- likes him back. Because she doesn't really like him. I just don't no what i can do.
signed-Confused
I think you should ask him out anyway. he might like you too. and if he does and wants to get over the other girl he might try it. and things might work out. so go for it... it would be better to let him know that you like him anyway.
When you say be creative about asking out a guy, what would you say?
well for me.. obvioudsly i'd be asking a girl. i dont really know because i havn't done so in a while and either way creative in a way it ties with your life. not mine. but.. i'd tell her/him how i felt about them in a nice way. and the last line would probabley be something like, "so.. could we try this again?" but thats me. think of something for yourself
There's this guy and like we kind of flirt and today in the only class i have with him, other than lunch, he told me that this one guy likes me and i was like eww and hes like who do you like and i just say um i dont know and smiled and my friend told me to do that. But the only thing is is that whenever i see him hes with his ex that he just dumped cuz she was getting annoying and he says he doesnt like her and stuff but like she is always all up on him. What do you think i should do? Should i ask him out or just lay off of him?
Well i think he likes you. and say deffinatly give it a try. dont worry about the other girl, just cause she might like him doesn't mean he likes her back. but when you ask him out, be creative. and dont feel too worried and freak out.
My best friend is gay and he thinks he know everything should I ask him out or should I tell him he doesnt kno anything.........
both.. just dont say "you dont know anything" like that. cause if you were bitchy enough to i'd rather not be telling you anything.
He doesnt notice me, doesnt even seem to see me.he's not blind, but everytime im near him its like im invisible. Iv tried my best to make him love me, but he'll never love me the way i wish he would. Ill die, wishing i was in his arms, he doesnt need me, or love me. I think this is the last chance i have, i wish i was lonely instead of just dodling. So my tears mean nothing, because he'll never see that they are from him...Please help
well i would but i dont see a question in there. if you want me to help either ask me something or talk to me about it online or something.
...I like this guy, but i think he only likes me as a friend, thats ok too. But i'm afrid to ask him out because i'm afraid of rejection because then he might never talk to me again. I asked out a guy once and he didn't talk to me for a few weeks. I don't want that to happen. i don't know what to do. please help.
dont let rejection scare you. if it doesn't go as planned... then theres nothing you can do but try harder or try someone else. if he does say no, then its not that big of a deal. wouldn't you rather tell him you like him and have him say no other then you never asking him out, therefore not letting him know you like him. because he might like you and you wont know. and that would just be a waste and a huge blow off when you find out. the other kid was just a loser. good luck.
There is this guy and my friend is like the prettiest girl in skool and like everyone thinks shes pretty, and the guy even like smiled at her this one time when we were walking in together. But like i dont know if he likes me. But i dont think he likes her but like, do you think i should ask him anything or what do you think i should do? the girl tells me that im stupid...in a good way.like not to make me be mad at her or anything..but like since i think that. I know that i have to get to know the guy more but do you think i should ask him out?
Well if you think he might like her, nothing wrong with a nosey friend. you can even get things out of him. unless your a blabber mouth and he knows it.. but anyway, yeah you should get to know him a little better. understand his thoughs.. (what you get him to tell you) and give it a try. but dont just go "will you go out with me?" cause thats lame and boring. i think that line sucks and that you most likely can think of something better on your own. good luck.
i live in a neihgborhood w/ all guys and they are all my friends. but they always act like jackoffs when there around htere friends at school. they have huge egos sometimes!!!! they are my best friends but how do i deal w/ them!!!
well.. i guess you could tell them that. explain it. and if they dont stop being dicks you shouldn't really be friends.. i dont have much to say about that. ego's anger me
hi andrew, i was reading your aadvice colum and you seem pretty good at this so i have a simple, yet complex question for you to help me out with-what is the purpose of life- thanks! bye
you would have to be more specific. and actually talk to me. just IM me and we can talk about it if you want on Outsideofthis56. sorry but i cant answer that right now.. with what you told me.
hi andrew. i have this problem. you see i have this friend. he is really cool and wacky and haha wow is he insane. ive gone out with him before a couple times and we keep breaking up. and now were not together but i like really like him again. i dont know why but he just makes me feel like im not a retard. im afraid if i tell my friends they'll just be like "Oh, not again!" i mean its weird though because when were together he acts a lil weird but we can still have very romantic conversations. but like when were not together he tells me im like his best friend and im his easiest best friend to talk to and he said he was alone again and is that a sign that he likes me or something? what should i do about my friends?
thanks
sincerly,
{{confused}}
well dont listen to your friends. if they are real friends they will deal with it. so just tell them if you have too. another try with him might be a good thing. it might go further this time. it might even go better. im not so sure if him saying hes alone means that he likes you, but maybe in his own little messed up way it might. maybe you can try to dig further into his feelings. and if he likes you and you like him whats holding you back? GO FOR IT!
i really like this girl(Christina Sameth) but i don't think that she knows i like her. How do i tell her that i like her? I don't know if i should ask her out because all of her other boyfriends don't seem anything like me. should i just be her friend or tell her that i like her more than a friend and i would like to go out with her? If you don't know Christina you don't have to answer this question. bye
well first i do know her. and being different then the others is a good thing. why would she want to date the same dirtbag over and over again? she wouldn't. so be yourself and be different. be friends for a little while... if she doesn't know you try talking to her and stuff. like just walk up to her and say hey. talk to her friends and if you become friends with her friend you can get in to her.. well you could become friends easier. then if u still like her try to tell her. in your OWN way.
ok there is this guy that i really like. He knows who i am but doesnt know me. i dont know who him either. But i really really like him. Im like way to shy to go up and jsut talk to him but i really want to get to kno him. wut do i do/?
well to get to know him your going to have to face your fear eventually. if you just go up to him and talk to him your going to fell better that you did. and it will become easy and maybe it will become normal for you guys to talk. just hang out.
I have a boyfriend. I mean i like him, but he's such a fucking jerk! He pisses me off all the time and almost everytime i see him i wanna kick the shit out of him. But i really like him. I dont know what to do. I mean i love him but i hate everything about him. He's mean to all his friends and insults me all the time. He's just an all around pain in the royal freaking ass, and in my diary i write instead of i love him, i write that i hope he rots in hell. What do i do?
well if you even have to think he should rot in hell for a second you deffinatly dont love him. your just holding on because you want him to become the best boyfriend he will never be. just dump him. hes not worth one fucking second of your time.
I'm the one whos friend ignores me around his other friends. Today i was talking to him with his friends and it was ok but then later he just butted me out. I don't think thats much of a friend, but i still want to be his friend i'm just not sure if he wants to be mine. Maybe i'm annoying him and i don't want to ask him cause it sounds stupid hey do u think i'm annoying, but thats just me. I'm not sure what i should do. I need advice.
It doesn't matter how random is could be. just ask him. but dont get all, "am i annoying??... HUH HUH?!?!?!" cause that is very annoying. if he asks why, just tell him to explain and you could work things out. if he thinks your a little, dont flip out, and dont try to ignore him. be normal. just.. try not to do whatever he says he has a problem with. but then again butting you out isn't so nice. think about if your sure that hes even worth the trouble. he might and might not be. dont let him take advantage of you or anything like that. lable yourself as you did this time. im sorry if im not helping very much. but if you want you can ask with more detail of the situation later on. good luck with him.
i am so fed up with people pretending to fucking care about me i just want to die, and to top it all of my whole fucking family hates me. what the hell should i do?????????
first calm down. and dont say you want to die.. cause thats kind of dumb knowing who you probabley are. im pretty sure. well be a little more specific. and are you sure they dont care? or are you just... uhh doing that thing people hate called uh SOPPOSING. people shouldn't say anything if they arn't sure. unless its important for a life dont get in anyones bussiness. if you dont feel like listening, hey it will be your loss when you best friend hates you. give me a real question.
Andrew,
Iv had this friend for a while now. We got really close as only friends ( we wouldnt want it more) but something happened. I dont know, every since a couple months ago, we just started drifting apart. This friend is so important to me, and i could never live without them. They give me feedback when iv done wrong, and come to my rescue when im shut down, i couldnt survive without them, and im starting to fall apart because we have gotten so close to loosing our friendship. I love this friend, and i would do anything to let them know. How do i remove the space between our different lives, so that we are as close as we were at what seems so long ago?
Think about it. Be sure of this problem. You cant just have about a week of drifting because maybe hes just hanging with a few new people. just for a while though. so once hes as close with them as he is with you, he'll come back. he just wants to expand i soppose. trust me.. he will be back.
Andrew,
Iv had this friend for a while now. We got really close as only friends ( we wouldnt want it more) but something happened. I dont know, every since a couple months ago, we just started drifting apart. This friend is so important to me, and i could never live without them. They give me feedback when iv done wrong, and come to my rescue when im shut down, i couldnt survive without them, and im starting to fall apart because we have gotten so close to loosing our friendship. I love this friend, and i would do anything to let them know. How do i remove the space between our different lives, so that we are as close as we were at what seems so long ago?
Think about it. Be sure of this problem. You cant just have about a week of drifting because maybe hes just hanging with a few new people. just for a while though. so once hes as close with them as he is with you, he'll come back. he just wants to expand i soppose. trust me.. he will be back.
Andrew....i have this guy that i really like.. and i went out with him before and he really liked me and i wasent sure so i broke up with him because i really liked this other kid and lastyear is when i went out with him and i guess what i was a slut or whatever and now this year i m a prep and i changed alot.. and our relationship like went on and off a couple of times.. and he was like a bestfriend over the summer, and now this year he is like all different and there is this rumor going around about me and its really gay and not true but he wont talk to me at school because of it, and he will call me at home but like he acts like he likes me and then he goes out with this other girl.. and it really hurts becuase i never felt this way about a guy and i liked this kid for over a year now and i really screwed things up and i dont know how to get him back and he knows how much i like him but i miss him and i love him.. i just want him back.. please help
your not a slut for that at all. well i doubt he would belive the rumor. rumors are never true. thats why they have their own name. tell him on the phone that it isn't true, if this guys to afriad to be with you at school because his perutation, well hes an ass. you should tell him how u felt about the other girl. that would be important in your relationship. he may even feel really happy about it. making a better chance about him not caring about the rumor. and being with you. you didn't screw things up, find out who the person was that started the rumor. then blow it all in their own face. getting him back will just take time. rumors last about a week untill it takes one "no" for anyone to belive that its not true. wait it out. and see how things go