I'm 22 years old, just graduated from college, moved, and started a new job.
I'm dealing with a lot of self doubt and lack of direction, so I guess Freud would say I'm using this site to deal with these feelings.
I hope to use my interests in philosophy, psychology, and economics to give a holistic advice column and help someone out.
Gender: Male
Location: Omaha
Occupation: Intern
Age: 22
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This friend I used to be really close with all of a sudden treats me like I'm a stranger. When I talk to them, they respond briefly then turn away. It's worse than being a stranger, cuz my friend's can be pretty friendly with strangers, not cold and distant like lately. I try talking to them about this recent change but they get all defensive, so what am I supposed to do? I don't want to lose a friend =\ (link)
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People change, for better or worse. It seems to me that your friend is trying to change, and that their friendship with you isn't part of that package. I've had many friends who, whether dropping an old shared hobby or discovering pent-up emotions or whatever, decided that it is sometimes best to part ways.
If this person treats you like a stranger, chances are they want you to be a stranger. If they get defensive with you, then they're probably dealing with emotions they don't want to talk about for some reason.
All you can do is continue to respect and be friendly to him/her; if you are a good friend, then you'll keep the friends who matter. That's really all you can do.
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I have no idea what I want to do with my life! I am able to see all of the possibilities for failure or success in a situation. I love theatre, music, and sports. My grade point average is a 4.0 on a 4.0 scale. I have an exceptional ability to get people to do what I want them to; I have many friends and even more loyal acquaintances. It is quite easy for me to gain the trust of others and get them on my side in an argument. I really want to help people and would enjoy volunteering in a third world or war-ridden country. I was thinking maybe I could go into public or international relations. Does anyone know of a job that utilizes my people and persuasion skills?
Thank you.
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I think you're on the right track trying to determine your strengths as these will determine what you'll enjoy doing; I recommend taking the Kaplan Strengthfinder test or meeting a career/school counsellor for an objective analysis.
You didn't mention "why" you would enjoy volunteering or international travel. I encourage you to follow this ambition, but also to carefully research your motivations behind it. Be sure that you'd could be happy after leaving your home, friends, and lifestyle. I suggest studying abroad in college, or doing an international mission trip, etc. to find out if that's really what you want to do.
Good luck-
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