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Q: 15/f i asked a guy out on a date and he said yes, and we have hung out a few other times. When are you an official couple and when is it okay to introduce someone as your 'boyfriend'. also its raining where we are and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas a little more original than a movie for a date idea somewhere in seattle

Ok you need to have a talk with him. Do this when your alone obviously it might be awkward with a crowd around you. :-) Anyways just ask if you two are boyfriend/girlfriend or if your just dating each other. That's the only way to do it that I know of. My ex boyfriend called me his girlfriend immediately. I was shocked when he did because it was the first date!!!

As for dating ideas go to a indoor rollerskating place, mall, bowling, dinner out even if it's just fast food, or find an indoor golf place around you. I work in a cafe at a bookstore and I see couples in there all the time reading magazines or talking. Well i hope i helped. Good luck. :-)

Q: i really cant stand my sister. like anytime she says anything, i like want to kill her. she gets on my last nerves, and its at the point that i cant even be in the same room. shes yougner than me, and thinks shes innocent, but she bugs the hell out of me, and i really cant take it. any suggestions to like get her less annoying (there is ab-suh-lutely NO way im going to a therapist)

I have a sister and we fought constantly as kids. I am the younger sister and she and I are so close now that I'm 22 years old and she's 26 years old. I say try to find your own space where you can shut her out and turn on some music on a cd player. Someday you'll get along and she'll get less and less annoying as she grows up. Good luck.

Q: How exacally do you send a guy "signals" that you like him and such?

I joke around with the guy I like...anything to make him grin makes me crazy. Stand close to him but not so close that he moves away. Play with you hair or if your feeling bold touch his hair. Give him sheepish cute grins and eye contact is a must. Like the other answers said touch his arm or hand.

Q: ((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap

any suggestions on what i should do?

I am 22 years old and even though a 4 year age difference is not a huge deal. I myself adore someone who is 3 years younger then me. I do understand your mom's concern. But like you said, if this guy was after you just for sex he would be long gone by now since he isn't getting anything from you. Your mom, you and him should all sit down together and have a talk. Maybe if she meets him and can trust him with you then she might start to relax. It's hard for a mom to let go of her child. He needs to earn her trust. It's a tough situation but if it's meant to be it will. Your still so young and guys will come and go. I hope you try this and it works for you. Good luck sweetie.
:-)

Q: ok so my exboyfriend whent on a trip this weekend and he got drunk and went skinny dipping w/ his friend and her sister and ended up having sex w/ both of them cuz he liked both the girls. he told me because he has some feelings left for me but i cant trust him i know i cant ive been trying to get him to stop drinking for ever and its reasons like this that make me try to get him to stop so he doesnt do anything stupid which he already did. he feels bad about it but he already did it! what can he change now? and i had a really strong feeling the night that it happened that he had done something he would regret. lately ive been missing him and considering taking him back but what do i do now? i odviously cant trust him. please help!!

It's hard for a person to change they way they are. He made a huge almost unforgivable mistake. Even if he was drunk that's no excuse for cheating on you. Which is what he did. Who's to say it won't happen again. I say try to be friends with him and see if he can make a change and stop drinking. Then see if it's worth giving him your trust back. But that doesn't mean I think you should take him back as a boyfriend just as a friend. Take some time for yourself. Good Luck. :-)