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hey rachel!!!!....its ur otha 1/2!!
i miss u gurlie!!!!!....so we still havent done our little get together....wuts up with that??....AnYwAys.....i have something to say about the whole thing with ciara and michelle.... the way i see it you have done the right thing, you apologized over and over again and they didnt listen...who's problem is that?? and also michelle seriously needs to get a grip, get over it, and move on!!...and i dont kno wuts up with ciara....i have known her since pre school and in all that time i kno that she would never just drop a friend, especially one like you, and over something that has nothing to do with her. she told michelle that we were talkin about her on the bus....HELLO....so wus she!!!!....or did she forget that part. i mean there is really nothing left for u to do, u are there for them and they need to be there for u...remember, 1 person can be a friend but it takes 2 to have a friendship. and i hope u kno that u have one friend from st jude that is there for you forever and for always!!...i think we both kno that with wut our friendship has been through we can get through anything!!...i luv ya and im always here for you no matter what!!
xoxo!!
.......RaChEl d..........

THANK YOU RACH! I LOVE YAH SOOOOO MUCH! SERIOUSLY WE CAN MAKE IT THROUGH ANYTHING! AND I*M SO GLAD THAT WE'VE GOTTEN CLOSER! I LOVE YAH GIRLIE! x0x

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I have a girlfriend. I love her SO much, she means the world to me. But her family is really messed up. Her mom is a psycho bitch and her dad is pussy whipped. Her mom will throw bitch fits for no reason, yell at her, kick her off whatever she's doing, make her walk places where she should be driven, etc. Today I was on the phone with her and her mom started yelling at her while I was on the phone, I could hear her yelling and stomping up the stairs and my girlfriend said "She's coming to hit me, I'll call you back". I don't know what to do. I want to tell someone but she keeps saying that would only make things worse. What should I do?

I would definitely do something. If you really love her you will do something about it. I don't know what else to say than tell someone. I mean she says that because I'm sure she loves her mom and she doesn't want her to be like put in rehab or whatever. But, it's the best thing to do! If you need more specific advice leave one in my inbox! hope i helped :)~

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I'm realy scared for high school, i no alot of ppl and im sure il have alot of friends, but i realy cant get over not seeing my summer friends and im still realy scared for high school...any tips??

i don't think i can help you with that one. i am in the same position. just try to be confident and outgoing, it will help you gain friends easily. don't be scared every other freshman have to do the same thing. so just wait and see what happens. hope i helped !!

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my best friend doesnt like my boyfriend. shes only met him once so i dont know how she could say that. i told her she cant really say she doesnt like him if shes only met him once.. then she tells my parents she doesnt like him! she has no right to do that and i told her.. but shes a really good friend. do u have any advice?

you could always have them meet again and do something fun, she might change her mind about him. but you were right she has no right to tell your parents her opinion on the guy. but who knows maybe she sees a side of him that you don't. ~ hope i helped !! ~

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i like this guy whose gona be a junior and im gona b a freshman. I know he likes me too would it be wrong for me to go out with him? By the way this collum thing is really neat!

well actually last year my friend ((freshman)) went out with this senior. i mean i guess it depends on the guy, because this kid wasn't very experienced. he had only had one girlfriend prior to my friend, and he had never kissed a girl. he was so sweet too, he would write songs and stuff for her. i don't think it is wrong but make sure you know the guy before you go out. ~ Thanks for the compliment! hope i helped !! ~

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thanks for your help. i think its cool how you have this advice thing going. youre advice is really good, i read all of it. you sound like a proffesional. it looks like im ahead of you(lol) cuz i already said all that stuff you told me to say to him.. but all he says is what do you want me to do? not be their friend? well thats not what i want.. i want them to be friends but i dont know these girls. i met some of them and they were SO mean to me. they laughed at everything i said or did, and everytime i tried to talk to them they ignored me or whispered with eachother. i told him i dont like htem but i mean theyre probably different around him cuz im not there. i dont wanna dump him cuz i love him and i no he loves me but i mean its just weird.. thanks for ur help. again haha youve given the best adviceoutta anyone ive asked
~anonymous

haha thanks! yeaa, i don't know much more you could do but talk to him. lol sorry if i wasn't much help! x0x

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thanks.. but i did confront him and he just says that he doesnt like them but he likes me. i am jealous but dont you think its weird how hes always talking on the phone to girls and how hes always doing stuff with them? i mean, im not saying im the only girl he can talk to on the phone and hang out wiht... but its a lot more girls than i expected. he also goes to these other girls w/ his problems and i feel like he should be coming to me. i did talk to him about it and he said that hes just used to going to them... it made me feel like i wasnt a big part of his life... do you have anymore advice? thanks
~anonymous

well, he should be paying more attention to you more than these other girls. but you should trust him, i'm sure he only strictly friends with them. but i dont think its appropriate for him to be talking on the phone with them and hanging out with them, his focus should be on you. like i said you should explain to him that you dislike that hes around all these other girls, and that you know he loves you more but you just dont like the fact that hes around all these other girls and talking to them so often. explain to him that you trust him but not those other girls. and you feel kind of unconfortable with him hanging around them all the time, especially with you not there. hope i helped ((again)) lol
need anything else...leave one in my box

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hey,
i need some advice about my boyfriend. he has a lot of female friends and sometimes i wonder if he likes them. i know he likes me but girls are always calling him and he is always hanging out with these girls. he says he doesnt like them and they dont like him but sometimes i wonder if deep down he really does. i like him a lot and im scared that i am giving someone my heart who likes other girls other than me. i know he is faithful but it bothers me when he is always talking on the phone to other girls. im not saying im the only girl he can talk to.. but it just gets to me when i call him and hes talking to another girl on the other line. i talk to him about it and he says he likes me alot and he definalty doesnt like those other girls.. they are just friends. but im still worried. is there something wrong with me? what should i do? thanks for ur help
~anonymous

No, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. I remember one of my boyfriends used to always talk to girls on the phone and stuff and i would get jealous because ((i know this sounds selfish)) but i wanted hima all to myself. I don't know its like a natrual feeling for a girl. you could confront him and tell him how you feel that he talks to too many girls and and be straight foward and say you get jealous of that, he'll understand. hope i helped !!

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The ignoring thing realy is the right thing to do and i have been doing it but now im even more upset because she acts like shes the only one whoese hurt here...that i so called stole her bf because im abig bitch and realy i havent im just a friend...i havent talked about her at all with anyone besides the fact that im upset about her being mad at me..and with you but does she have the right to go say shyt about me like this its realy awful too now all of her friends think im a huge biotch and i dont ant to be seen that way but im not about to go up to them and be like "ignore her because I know that shes still pressed over him and is taking it out on me" what th ehell am i supposed to do???

well... you can ignore it or you could apologize for going out with him. i mean if you look at the previous question thing then you'll see i just went through the same thing. and the choices i made were wrong i waited to long to apologize. so i would apologize to this girl and if she doesnt accept it than don't waste your time on her.
xox

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Believe me I have tried, many times. But they say that they don't want to be friends with me because I "have been such a bad friend." The thing is I didn't do anything to anyone except for Michelle. And all I did was go out with the guy she liked. But see I didn't know that. So now I feel stupid for ever going out with the kid. I lost all of my friends.. and what does he do, dump me. So yea, no matter how much I try they don't want me back...........This no it should be like this...... Believe me I have tried, many times. But they say that they don't want to be friends with me because I "have been such a bad friend." The thing is I didn't do anything to anyone except for Michelle. And all I did was go out with the guy she liked and give her crap about him breaking up with his last girlfriend saying that michelle is a boyfriend stealer because I knew she liked him. And it realy doesnt make sense cus then he asked me out and then i acted like nothing happedn. So now I feel stupid for ever going out with the kid. I lost all of my friends.. and what does he do, dump me. So yea, no matter how much I try they don't want me back....look rach i'm sure everyone would take you back as a friend because you are a nice person they are just caught up with some things but if you are the first to admitt what i changed in this paragraph then ppl will not hate you im sure they want you back and i think you need them back too just be the first to show u care so all can be better

okay this is not exactly how everything went down. okay ill admitt i have left stuff out bc not everyone needs to know everything. i truly didn't know michelle liked him bc at pats party she was all over greg so i kinda figured she didnt like him anymore. and yes i know i was bad mouthing her about being all of johnny because i liked him lol. yes okay i was jealous. and then i was talking with maggie and she said that she didnt care about the whole michelle and johnny thing and by then johnny had told me he liked me, and since i liked him we went out. it doesnt even matter anymore it didnt last. i mean i have apologized. you can ask michelle and ciara, i apologized to ciara numorous times, but everytime i had told her she would critisize my friendship to her saying i did all this stuff. i know i may not have been the number one friend but i was there for her. and you said that i need them back, im not so sure of that, school hasnt even started yet, who knows i may be better off without them. and i have told ciara how much i care but i dont think that matters to her. i have emails from her and everything, i tried, and in doing so i caused myself alot of pain.**ps** last time i checked this was my advice column not some place to explain all of my problem and get advice from other people lol**

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Does anyone know any quotes that are about love and her liking him so much and him not liking her at all? I need some for my profile... ANything about love will do! Thanks a bunch!

iLL rate you a 5 for a quote..whether i like it or not lol

here are some...

y0u can be told that y0ur q0rqeous everryday
and pe0ple can say y0ur beautiful in every way
but y0u d0n`t believe it -- n0t for one minute x0
cause the boy wh0`s opini0n means the most..
[ ... w0n`t admit it ... ]


I know it's a cornball thing, but love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? I say fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart."

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I am a 14 year old guy and I like a 10 year old girl, is this ok??

ehhhh.. sorry to say but thats kinda pushing it. :(

x0x

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yah ur rite u shouldnt have kept trying... but it sux becasue you no what u were all friends and if you get mad at 1 and especially hurt 1 it makes the rest mad... im sure many ppl have been there before you no..?? i think maybe you should talk to the ppl like that were mad at you for no reason.. and mayb see if they will give you anotehr chance cause you no there is hope...just believe in yourself... ok??? give it a try what do u say?

I don't know if I want to put myself through that. I know it was wrong of me to give up, but what else am I supposed to do? They won't listen to me and they don't care about me.

x0x

p.s. who is this !? write backk!

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well i went to the fair the other day and i saw that everyone was paired up, well not everyone but it seemed like that and i have been single for about 3 months now and im looking for a good relationship, i guess i just miss being held, and holding hands, do you think it's okay to start looking around again ?? i also have a crush at this guy at my school shoudl i tell him because a freind of mine told me that i'd have a chance with him? would it ruien our friendhship ?

Heyy!! Yea, I think everyone wants that, just the thought of someone loves you. I went out with my best friend. And now we don't talk anymore. You could try to see if things could work, I mean it really does depend on the guy. Also, how good of friends you guys are. Who knows it may make your friendship stronger....

x0x

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doesnt neone have any fun sites to go on wen ur bored??

ahahah!! www.bored.com or www.homestarrunner.com -- greatest sites ever!! very amusing!! lol
x0x

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Hey!! Well 1st thing this girl and i have been really close and through some years we have grown apart and for the last 2 years she has been really mean to me..Is there any thing i can do to be friend again or if you cant be friends again if i can stop her from being mean to me???

2nd thing- I have never had a boyfriend or even been asked to dance @ a school dance @ all is there something wrong with me??

Heyy! okayy we will start with 1. Personally I would confront her, maybe you guys could work something out. But if she's not willing to work things out, than i would just give up. It's not like you would want to be friends with someone who treats you like crap.

x0x

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Hey Rachel! I have a question (obviously lol). I have been going to a Catholic school all of my life and now I have to go to public high school. The only thing is, just yesterday my mom said I could go to a Catholic school if I wanted to, but it would be very hard on my family financially. I really don't know what to do. I want to go to Catholic high school sooo badly, but I don't want to put a lot of pressure on my parents and quite possibly grandparents for money. Please help me!

Heyy! yea.. i had the same choice but I honestly didn't want to do that. I have two sisters going into college so it would be hard, and most of you know my choice was to go to public. I have been going to St. Jude's my whole life, and i know it's going to be a big change in all, but I wasn't going to be selfish. So in my opinion, try going to public for like a year, and if you don't like it then tranfer. Hope I helped!

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hey rachel!! 1st i wanna say don;t worry aout thiose girls being mean 2 u!!! n sencond i wanna say ok well there is this girl n we have been like best frineds till this summer n now she sed we r growing apart n i think itz jus cuz she didn;t have a lot of frneds at her skool n now she has friends n the summer what should i do?? still try 2 b her best frined or jus make new frineds at my new skool that btw she will b there

hey there! thanks! well i kinda just went through the same thing... and i mean i was on the other side and it just killed me when this girl didn't want to be my friend anymore... so even if you guys are struggling you should still try to atleast be friends and keep contact with eachother. Who knows you might regret not talking to her, i know i sure do.

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my friend n my were smokeing some pcp (acid worse than weed) newayz i took a puff n said wtf this is gay n he was like give me my shit n i did cuz i firgued wat the hell well hes in the hosptial dying cuz of me 10% making it til monday alive if he dies i have to live wit it

on a side note my gf is going to a differnet school i dunno about this she juss not as fun to talk i think im only staying with her for making out n shit n it seems really shaloow but i might like her i cant tell but is hard to break up cuz she likes me alot i also mite like my ex again wat do i do - 2messups

1st... okayy i may not be experienced with this at all... but i mean its not your fault he does what he does.. i mean yea you could have prevented him from having it... but in other situations could you be able to stop him too? Try not to put so much pressure on yourself, and visit him as much as you can! Sorry if I wasn't much help!

2nd...i think if your having doubts than you should let her know... especially if you are only with her for those reasons... and if you do like your ex i would wait to see what happens between you and your current girlfriend... make sure you give it some time!

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OKay thers this guy and in the begginingof the summer we started as friends but then i liked him and he liked me but had a girlfriend and broke up with her and she hated me but she never talked tohim anyway its been almost 2 months since he broke up with her but she still says shyt about me and hates meand ive never hated her i still dont i think shes cool and i like her but i think she should kinda stay out of my buisnessnow since herlittle thingis long since over....what should i do or say to her or how ami supposed to act

in my opinion...i think you should ignore it.. because if you said something to her i'm sure she would get even more mad... so for right now i'd just wait for her to get over him. there's nothing else you could really do... hope i helped :)
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