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Q: ok im 14/f
the guy i like is 13
and hes perfect an every single way!
for real he is!
perfect hair perfect body
perfect smile
and perfect girl friend!!
i have been crushing on this guy for ever but resonantly its been over whelming every where i turn there he is.
its making me crazy!
we talk every day we flirt every day we hug every day until last Monday.where this girl asked him out!and i was just about to ask him. but she butted right in and was like will you go out with me and he looked up at me if i was supposed to tell him the answer/witch i wish i had!\ ok anyway today in p.e he was standing next to one of his perfect friends and he smiled at me i mean im not usually the girl who is happy when a guy smiles at me but the way he smiles at me the way he tilts his head to the right a lil like we were about to kiss gives me the chills so i smiled and then his friend asked him something under his breath and mr.perfect over there just pointed and was like yteah she is... and he winked at me and i was a lil scared of what he said so...i walked over there and then i was like hey cutie (i thought to my self ohmygod did i say that out load!)but he was like hi beautiful! it was amazingly cute! and his perfect friend was like well ill just leave u to perfectly cute people alone! ahh does that mena he said i was cute ahh what if he did all these things coming to my head so i loked at hima dn he said me and my gf are in a fight i was like yessssssssss in my head this time lol and he said i think im going to tell her i dont want her drama right now but of course i was stupid and told him that that sounded mean and to give her a lil bit longer so she can get over her dramma and he took my advice ahh im so stupid he could have been mine but i couldnt help to be nice to his gf!she was perfect!and with her lil robot friends perfect too.but mr. perfect is perfect for me we like everything the same we have so much fun together =\ its sad when you dont say something that needs to be said because im starting to really like him more then i have liked any guy!!!dude what do i do!because im not one to wait for a guy

hi well i think that you should wait for the perfect timing and then tell him how you feel. but dont ask him out. make him want you more than the other girl. BUT BE YOURSELF!!!if he knows you well enough he should be able to tell that you like him and when you are lying :]
if he cares he will be there and he will listen

Q: i have serius issues on depression. i mean everyday for the past month ive been down. please dont make fun of me. i cant help it. i just lost a gr8 friend/boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and i havent been happy or the same since then. i dont want to take freakin pills cause it makes me feel unhuman. it lowers my self esteem. i havent had any self esteem in over a month. everybody told me to move on and find someone else to go out with but its not that simple to move on after a heartbreak. i have changed so much in the past month. Please help me. what the heck should i do? ill do anything if it works. ill rate high and ill write super great about you if you just help me. thanks and please hurry!

okay so i am not going to say that i fully know what your going through but i want to try to help. doing something to hurt yourself in any way isn't the answer but i dont know if u would do that.i know for myself though that it is hard to let go of some one and to move on... i lost a guy that i loved alot and i still do. its been a year. since he broke up with me we go back together and we still are. but even if u dont get back with him.. well at least you know that you still care about him and well it may be a good answer if you are still great friends with him. even if you see him with another girl and you wish it was you at least he is happy. seeing him happy should make you happy and when he isnt then be there for him. even if you feel hurt it will go away, dealing with a heart break takes time. just be a great friend to him and let him know that even that you guys broke it off that you still care about him even if it has to be a friend and one day hopefully he will realize after all that has happened that you were the one right there to be his friend when he was alone and un happy. and that you were the one who cared when no one else did. that you still had feelings for him even after all that was said and done you were there.

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hi i'm michaela. i have had a pretty down life but there are good things. i think alot of people have had it hard. some people try to understand but only the person who has had that one thing happen to them can only really know how they feel.everyone has emotions and feelings that are different from others. even if others were in that same position. they just have a different perspective of it. well i have a huge family. i have some issues with my parnts but ya. i try to help lots of people.. as much as i can. i write things to help me deal with stuff but sometimes i have to find something else. i love to give advice and i am willing to help anyone with questions!! i try to give the best possible answer i can!!!