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Q: My mother was recently diagnosed with Schizophrenia, yet she is in denial. If you scream at her to get help, her face remains completely unchanged and emotionless.
She thinks everyone is out to get her, and against her; trying to take me and my brother away from her,which has already been done.
In March of last year, my little brother John was taken by his father from my mother. She hasn't seen him since. But he did it for John's own safety because at the time, my mother was somewhat abusing me, and she went to jail for it for four months.
She blames my father, Johns father, and her own mother for everything that;s happening to her, and nothing we say will convince her to get help. She doesn't think she needs help, and absolutely refuses to get it.
On June 4th of this year my grandmother is going to stop paying for my mother hotel room [since the state of Georgia won't allow her to be around me alone] and is going to stop helping all in one.
Then we're going to Virgina for about 5 days; so my mother won't come to us asking for more help.
Thinking about doing that to my own mother, whom I love to death, breaks my heart.

I really need help on how to make her understand that she needs help...or I'll never have my old mother back ):
hey hun.

dont listen to any of these other girls.

my mom vvas diagnosed vvith skitz too.. she has suffered from multiple personality for as long as i can remember, I cried almost evry night for tvvo years straight. & sometimes i vvanted to give up.. My mom has 7 kids & she left us all to go off and find her ovvn Journey. my mom lived on the streets for 3 years; and vvas a drug addict. i suggest you trick her into going to a psych vvard, or have police escort her there. this vvill be hard for you. but my mom got picked up on the side of the railroad tracks by the police and vvhen she knovvs its time for help she knosss. Keep loving her too im the only one in my family that has stayed vvith her for so long. I tend to care more than my brothers & sister. My mom just got out of the psych vvard.. vvas puton meds and novv transferred over to a program that is like a shelter. she is coming to live vvith me in a fevv vveeks because she has gotten so much better. She livesin Montana andi live in NY so it vvas ten times harder for me to help her.. if you ever need advice on this or just someone to talk to IM me dont be shy. hollisterhotts87 i kno hovv it feels.. please let me kno hovv it goes.. Jackieee

Q: so i know theres a lot of questions like this and i searched them but i couldn't find one that answered my question so sorry if its something repeated

so my boyfriend and i had sex only like a couple days ago and im suppose to get my period on june 7 so im not late, yet.. it was my boyfriends first time having sex and i know i should have checked to make sure he put the condom on right but i didnt even think about it i just assumed he knew how.. but he didnt pinch the top of it when putting it on so there was no space for the cum and it broke.. and hes freaking out big time and im trying my best to stay calm and not think about it because i know stress can delay my period.. i know he came a little bit in me and i checked this online calender thing i have and it says i was fertile that day witch sucks.. but im stuck what should i do now? my boyfriend is to busy freaking out and not calming down and i dont know what to do ..any advice on anything.. ways to stay calm.. or what i should do now? thanks anything is more then good
hey girl.
thats good of you to stay calm.. that happened vvith me and my boyfriend once. it vvas terrible. vvhat i did is vvent to vvhat vve have is the Jacobus center.. maybe planned parent hood for you.. and they vvill give you the morning after pill vvhich vvill clean your system right out. Just let him kno there is a possibility you both could be overreacting.. like i did. next time you go to the planned parent hood make sure you get on birth control.. you donthave to tell your parents and its free.

hope i helped =]]
good luck hun.
Jaclynn

Q: 16/f/sophomore

im trying to make friends this year but it's so hard! i dont have a "best friend", a person who i think is the coolest person to hang out with ever and who thinks the same about me, like other girls & guys with my grade. thats bc i used to be really shy but now im pretty much over shyness and i want to be social.

i know i should be nice & talkative but i feel like its HARD because i dont want to become one of those people who are so OBVIOUSLY trying to be friends with someone else and spend all their time talking to them when that person doesnt like them. also it seems like veryone already has their own best friends, a crew that they can hang out with at ANYTIME. while i have friends in 5 groups and out of 10 years only 5 of my friends have come over to my house, and i can count the number of times they have come over on my hands. and i never get invited ANYWHERE..to the beach...to parties (maybe once every 6 months)..just to HANG OUT..im always at home on saturdays and im too embarassed to admit it to anyone. =[

keep in mind my family is kind of hard up right now money-wise so i cant just throw parties.

I KNOW im NOT a boring person and i KNOW im not annoying compared to other people i know and i KNOW im not like a social outcast who nobody talks to, i have a lot of friends, a few good, long-time friends who are in their own groups, but no BEST friends. i guess i just need advice on how to make friends. anything youve got.
hi, I'm Jaclyn.

I used to be the same vvay.. Everyone i knevv had that one friend they could go to for anything.. and vvhat i did.. vas tried hanging out vvith ppl that my friends hung out vvith or at a dance start dancing vvith some random people.My school has the bovvling alley vvhich is like our place to go on fridays.. and ive met tons of friends there.. try doing a sport.. Me & my bestfriend Brittney started being friends by Cheerleading.. novv she is connected to my hip. Myspace alvvays helps too.. try sending someone a friend request and picture comments. =]
let me kno if things vvork out.

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JaclynKL2008
Heyyy im jackiee =]
im 15 and i love helping people.
im easy to get along with, and i can help you with anythinggg! if i dont have an answer for you; you bet ill find one =]Dont be shy or embarrassed; ask me anythinggg!

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