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aw..well sweetheart, stay positive and true to yourself. maybe they do still love you..have you ever asked? honesty and questioning things really help!:) sorry about w/e happened!

x0x-dani

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ok im going into 9th grade and im trying out for varsity...we already had one tryout and i didnt do very well i dont think...i need to be tougher going to the ball....any suggestions??? im a fast learner and im willing to work hard! leave your AIM sn if u can help and also leave advice!!

well..once again, a question about soccer!:) ive played forever..so i kinda know alot about it! go strong to the ball no matter what, and dont be afraid to get physical..i dont mean punching or anything, but when its 1v1..put your shoulder into it a bit..push ah little..and try and steal it..its ah lot easier if your ah little more physical with it. tryouts suck, believe me i just finished last week..and made varsity. think positive..even if your going against the biggest meanest girl, tell yourself you can get the ball away from her..and do it!:)

x0x-dani

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Ok so there was this 3v3 thing and a lot of people on my soccer team made teams. I didnt know about this intill like 3 days ago and a ton of people made a teama and no one asked me to play with them! i know its not cuzz im bad..im better then most of the girls that r on 3v3 teams and i have been on my real soccer team for 4 years now...ever sence the team started well i just wanted to ask how comeone no one asked me to be on there team when im better then a lot of the other girls!

well..ive played soccer since i was little..ah youngin! haha! so i mean, just be straight forwards with your teammates and ask them why they excluded you..they'll crack at pressure and tell you why. it always worked for me. (if your ah little shy..) then ask someone your close to on the team, someone youve played with for ah while and ask them why.

x0x-dani

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ok..im trying to help a friend out..and help him w/ his best man speech but what do u talk about when ur writing a best man speech?..id love it if people could help n fast! thanks!

i rate!

KiLeE kAe!

wow..this sounds like ah toughie! but fun!! talk about memories they shared together..abotu when they were kids the dumb shit they did..look back on pictures and remence on the past and what memories it left you. really get into how much he'll be there..and how much he cares about him and his new wife:)

x0x-dani

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How can i make my ex like me again, they told me they loved me once and now they basically ignore me. What can i do?

well..you really cant do anything. im sure youve tried your hardest to get them back and want them to notice you, but the key is to make it look like your alright with the situation. if they really want you back then they will eventually come back to you. just stay positive to yourself and true.

x0x-dani

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What would u do if u love someone, but u cant stained to think about them and u wanna move one but u cant. And it hurts so bad sometimes that at night u cant stop cutting urself? U like someone else but its jus never the same and u try to cover it with sports and work trying to get them off ur mind but it never works? What should I do?

wow..cutting! i know alot about this...sometimes it takes awhile to get over someone, especially if you really loved them. but cutting isnt the answer..really its horrible and so bad for you. i did it when i was younger..then stopped, then when ry and i got into a huge fight one night i cut myself and just freaked..and i havent done it since. simply because i know he cares alot about me and wouldnt want me to ever hurt myself. think about the person you really care about and think if he or she would want you to do that? probably not AT ALL! plus..i dont want you doing this to yourself. even though this thing is annonomus, im telling you the truth. sweetie pie, who ever you are..please dont hurt yourself. there are too many people in this world that care about you, im sure about it..doesnt matter WHO you are!:) x's and o's! :)
back to the q..
liking someone else..is one of the only ways to get over someone else..find a good quality in them and try and keep positive things in mind. but then again, you said "love" and love kills...if you really love this person you care so much about keep on trying. never give up. if the love is there then it will eventually shine through give it time!!

x0x-dani

*let me know how things go!*

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Hey! im moving into a new house in september. my room there is much smaller than my current room so i will have to change all of my stuff! I was wondering if you knew any sites that gave cute, creative, classy, unique, crazy, or pretty ideas on decorating rooms. I am 14, soon to be 15..and obviously a girl. I am kinda a 'do my own thing...be different' kinda girl. I want a room like nobody elses. Do you know of any ideas for decorating it? Or any sites that could help me out? Please respond quick..i am moving september 20th!

OH!!! OH!!! I know ah perfect site!! go to www.pbteen.com its an awesome place to get stuff for your room or dorm:)

x0x-dani

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Anyone have any ideas on how to throw a party when your parents arent home, and what can we do? and not get caught And have fun!? i rate!!

-Andrea

huMm..get all your girlfriends over for the night and PLAN! haha! its funner that way! uMm..if your older- throw a kegger party..it usually attracts hot guys! lol! *wink*wink* uMm..all you can do is just invite tons of people..just go down your cell list and buddy list and call everyone, even if u dont know them that well! call and just ask them to bring something little! it may get a little out of hand - but thats the fun of it! lol! if you dont want anything to big..just call a few people to chill for the night!

*hope this helps!*

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we're trying to put a picture on our advice column but all of our pictures are too big, do you know how we can make them smaller? thanks

make an account at photobucket.com you can resize pictures there:)

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hey ya'll ..i just turned 15 and i was just wonderin..when does your chest usually become fully developed?..like i'm a 34B & iduno i think that's small..but i'm already 15..is that guna b my chest size? or am i yound enough that i'm still developing?..=/..thanx xOx

well im 15 as well and my chest is a 36B..and it has been for a few years now. so, it all depends on weather or not youve had your period and stoped growing..cuz i know when i started my period i stoped growing and my chest started to grow a bit more..but ive heard it fully stops around your late teen years..but im not sure..be proud of what you have!:)

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ok my boyfriens thinks that i am pregant because i have been complaing about my stomach hirting. and i tryed to tell him that its not that because i havent fucked in like 3 mouths. so what should i tell him....?most importantly how am i gonna get a test with out my parents seeing it.....? they still think that i am a virgin!!!!
help me please becasue i cant lose him!!!!!

well be honest with him and just tell him out it is! there are places you can go to get tested and see if you are or not, its just for teens. look in the phonebook and call around

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i had unprotected sex with my bf..and then like a week later i got my period...but i got my period like 2 weeks early....what does this mean?? i dont think im pregnant...am i?

no your not pregnant..and it donesnt mean anything - your still young (im guessing) so its probably irregular..but next time take the time to put the condom on so you dont have to worry about getting pregnant!:)

*hope this helps* -plz rate!

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well this comming Sundae...is a concert here in my town~Stockton...Cassidy..J-Kwon..Petey Pablo..Ying-Yang Twinz will b here...and i dont know what to wear??!!...any ideas?

make a tee-shirt! thats what i did for my upcoming kenny concert! all you have to do is find images and print them from your computer on to special tee-shirt transfers then to a tee-shirt. its wicked fun! there are directions on the tee-shirt transer box thang..and you can buy those at wal*mart

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what should i do when i get honry?...i am a girl!...PLEASE HELP!!

well its normal to feel that way..pleasure yourself by masterbating. finger yourself...look at porn..or imagine your with someone you want to be with. of if you have a boyfriend try stuff out with him, its always fun to experiment.

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i am 13...my mom takes me shopping @ Victoria's Secret..and she always buys me the regular panties..but i really want a THONG...all my friends wear them..and i wore them a few times {i wore my sisters...with out her knowing} and i really want my own..what should i do?

next time you go there..go off and look at some on your own:) and grab some your size..and bring them to your mom for her to pay for them. tell her that you want to start wearing thongs. when i was maybe..12..or 13 i started out with thongs and now i wear g-strings..their reallie comfortable because you cant feel them..when a thong is actually fabric, but that is just my personal oponion. anyways..tell your mom that you dont want to wear those granny pannies anymore! :-P!

x0x-dani

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Hey Danielle...well u sed that we can ask u nethin...but i mean...i dont have a boi frend @ tha moment..im 14..and i feel so lonley!..i look @ porn nd stuff..but i mean..i get horny! i am a girl..nd sumtimes if i think about it..im BI..u knoe..i luv boiz..but i juss think about doing it wit girls..but i mean..no one will think of me like that!..what am i 2 do?..i am a virgin!..i wanna have sex...sometimes i do it with myself! u knoe..i finger myself..or rub up on my blanket nd pillow..but i really want sumone..an actual person..please help me!!

well stay positive, the right person will come around. guys just have a sence of girls when they are searching for a mate..for some reason if you try and keep that off your mind you'll find just the right guy just when u least expect it! i can almost promise you that!:) as for getting horney and doing stuff to yourself, that is completly..completly normal! do what makes you comfortable. if you think your bi, and you like girls aswell as guys thats alright!:) dont deney it..be upfront with it. (uneless your scared or dont want to) because if u are upfront then maybe there is a girl out there for you

x0x-dani

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i have been in love with this guy for like 3 years and when he asked out my BEST friend i was crushed, but of course shes a true friend so she said no, but she also told him that her best friend like him!(which everyone know is me, cause were like togetther 24/7)Butt anyways after he found out, he said he really liked me and wanted to go out with me again. (we went out in 6h grade for a few months, i'm 14 now) At first i was a little scetched out cause i though he was jus using me to get to my friend but after a while he really seemed interesed and i couldn't resist. It was like my dream come true. We'v been going out for about 6 months now but haven't really you know done much. I mean we'v made out like once and hug and hold hands whenever were together, witch isn't to often. He used to call everyday but i wasn't home alot cause i was tied up in sports and other things, plus i was afraid that it would be awkward cause we wouldn't have much to talk about. we haven't talked for about 2 1/2 weeks now and i know he's home i just don't know why he won't call me. I ried calling him a few times but he's not home. I'v always wanted like a perfect boyfriend that was really interested in me and tha i could hang out with and talk to about anything. i thought i would have that with him , but when were apart he doen't seem that interesed and when were together i want to do stuff and i know he does too buy we don't, i can' imagine breaking up with him because i know i'll regre i later, you seem to have a really good relaionship with your boyfriend, how can i get one withou seeming cheezy and "talking to him about it"? Please help me ASAP!!!

wow..this is kinda a toughie cuz u dont want to talk to him about it. ryan and i talk about everything, even stuff i am completly red faced embarrased about. if u want to see him or talk to him..go over! just show up at his house one day..if hes not there..prepare yourself with a letter..and leave it for him. tell him how you feel in that letter (words are very powerful!) and he'll get the message. i understand things get rough with not seeing eachother and the phone and not knowing what to say..but u just need to look past that..be yourself! im absloutly crazy and ryan loves that about me! i keep the conversation going by just saying or doing something crazy. be honest with him. i know its hard to talk about things but honesty gets you far in life and in relationships..ask ryan:)hope i helped..if u need anything else..or if i missed anyhing question me again!:)

x0x-dani

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i was jsut wondering if a girl masturbating is gross or is it heathy or what!?!?

its not gross..its normal! haha! i defintally learned that from family living! haha

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hey dani! your beautiful!!!! where do you buy your pants? you say your short and your pants look like they fit in pics! im 4'11 and im constintally looking for pants to fit!

-marissa

thanks marissa:) i buy my pants at weathervane..5 short:) but now that their closing..i buy em at pac-sun 5-short..their kinda long there for some reason..but look for the pants u want in short..dont buy regular..or TALL! haha

x0x-dani

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How far have you and RYan gone???

thats for me and ryan to know..lol

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