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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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well me and my boyfriend where playing around yesterday. his penis touched my vagina and he pre-cumed a little. after that he fingered me and i think that way the precum may have gotten into me and now i'm scared that i'm pregnant cause now is also the time when i'm most fertil :/ can precum cause pregnancy? and afterwards he also went into me for like 3 seconds but i told him to pull out. i dont think he pre-cumed when he was in me though. and i also had a few drinks which is also the reason i was so careless (is there a chance that the alcohol could've prevented pregnancy?) .. usually i always use a condom and i'm very careful. is there a high chance that i might be pregnant?

I doubt you are pregnant. How many days has it been? You could go get the Plan B. If it's only been a few days you could also take regular birth control pills every 12 hours for 2 days. If it's been more than 5 days these methods are useless. But I highly doubt you are pregnant.

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i'm eighteen years old.was in a relationship for the past four years.everything was absolutely fine..till my bf decided it had to end(a week back).i kinda understand why he had to do so..and totally know he did the right thing..but i'm not able to let go..though breaking up was the most practical thing to do, i'm not able t accept it..and the thing that makes it even more complicated is that we had been doing more than just hanging out.so after all this..i feel like i've been used and cheated..i'm not able to tell my parents about it cuz i'm feeling guilty.. have already attempted suicide twice but it didn't really work..i have no idea what to do,, every little thing in my life reminds me of him..i wanna hate him but am really not able to...
and knowing that he's moved on is only hurting me more...i don't know what to do and i need all the help i can get...not to get back to him..but to let go of him.....

Sweetie NO man is worth your life. You are worth so much more than you are giving yourslef credit for. Trust me this time next year he will be a distant memory. Listen to this:

In Jan 2006 I found out I was pregnant by "the love of my life". We planned to get married. We got a place together he found a decent job and everything was WONDERFUL. One morning three months into my pregnancy he went to work and called me when he got there as usual to say he made it ok and "I love you". Well I answered the phone and he said "I'm at the bus station and leaving town". He left and I NEVER saw him again. I was a wreck. I thought my life was over but now I am married to a man who loves my son as his own and we have two more children. He was a blessing sent from God I do believe.

Have you heard the song "God Bless the Broken Road" CHeck it out. It's so true. You can not find/appreciate a good man until you know the hurt of a horrible man. Please trust me. You will laugh at yourself before you know it and wonder what the hell you were thinking shedding a single tear for this person.

You will be happy.

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Last Friday I went to a party and met this boy. From the moment we met we really clicked. He was showing me off to all of his friends and kind of overdoing it with the compliments. I am not sure if it's part of his game or he really meant it. Anyway we ended up sleeping at the party together. I barely got any sleep because we were talking and kissing all night. He attempted more and would apologize when I rejected him yet still attempted more once a decent amount of time had went by. He was somewhat cocky about himself stating how I definitely wanted him and whatnot which made me want him even less. After our night of kind of cute fun he took me home. He has been trying to hang out since but I am not sure if it's a good idea. I really clicked with him and he said we clicked but then again, he seemed to be using every line in the book. I guess what I'm trying to say is being the messed up girl I am the lines got me along with his good looks and I'm wondering what to do. Should I give him a chance? Or should I just write him off as a player and ignore his texts from now on?

Move on unless he is a lot of fun to hang out with once in awhile and that is all you are looking for. However, if a relationship is what you are seeking MOVE ON! If he is cocky there is a reason. He is insecure in himself and if he is so focused on himself what time does he have to spend on you. In a relationship you should feel as if he is treating you like a queen. He clearly stepped past that when he didn't let up on moving too quickly. You already gave him a sign that you were not interested in progressing sexually at this point so he should have repected you enough to allow you to make the next move forward.

Hope this helps you out.

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