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we dont know how much longer
Posted Sunday March 28 2010, 10:59 am
im female 16.
just over a year ago i came into contact with my real dad we have never gotten along he moved half way around the world to remarry and have another kid as he forgot about me but hes still my dad and i miss him awhile ago he was diagnosed with a lung disease and i was told he had 6 months to 6 years but yesterday i got a message saying hes not doing too well and they dont know how much longer he will have i dont know how to deal with this im scared to talk to my mom cuz they always just fought and i dont feel comfortable talking to my stepdad i just dont know and im having such a rough time with it.. Please help me..
Sleepiesheeep
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I see my parents side but change my view on their parenting?
Posted Thursday March 25 2010, 8:32 pm
15/F; Okay, so about a year ago I became friends with a girl who slowly but surely changed who I was (we'll call her Allison). I used to be this incredibly brilliant student who was smart in all different ways. My parents were so proud of me, I had friends and went to their houses and sometimes hung out at the movies and mall and such, you know, normal things. Then one day probably 8 months ago or so, me, Allison, and a couple other friends went to a fast food restaurant after school, and saw this "bad boy" that Allison and another girl recognized, and we all knew the name. We went over to talk to him (he was smoking a cigarette) and he was just telling us all he's been through, like going to jail and being in a group home. I imme...
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How do I tell my husband that I'm ready for a baby now?
Posted Wednesday March 24 2010, 10:57 pm
A few years ago I got married to my darling husband. He's really a wonderful man but I wasn't ready for a baby then. Two of my best friends have BOTH just become pregnant and it makes me realize that I'd like to be pregnant now as well. I am ready to have my first baby but I don't know how to tell my husband now. When we got married he really wanted to have a baby right away and I told him how I didn't want that to happen so he was very disappointed.
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Should I donate my kidney to my uncle?
Posted Tuesday March 23 2010, 10:38 pm
My uncle is really sick and his kidneys are failing him. He's had this kidney trouble for years now and he's been in and out of the hospital. He has not found a donor yet and has been waiting on the list for quite some time. I just found out that I'm a match for him. My mom doesn't want me to donate my kidney though because she says I'm way too young to be doing things like that and that I might end up regretting it later. I'm not sure what to do though. I don't want him to die because he's always been good to me. What should I do? What are the REAL pros & cons of doing this? Help?
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how do I know when it's time to tell my son to leave
Posted Tuesday March 23 2010, 10:13 pm
Dear Advicenators,
My son is 25. He has a BS degree in electrical engineering and a decent job. He has some student loans he is in the process of repaying. As caring parents we told him he could stay at home after graduation to get a heads up on paying extra on his loans and we would not charge rent or anything like that. It has been one year now and I am finding it stressful that he is home. He is very unappreciative of anything I do for him. He is also rude to us and disrespects our rules and wishes in our own home. Needless to say, he isn't paying any extra on his loans and I have to constantly remind him to pay them on time. He has lived on his own at college and I feel like it's time for him to be back out on his own ...
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How to tell my DAD that I started having my period?
Posted Monday March 22 2010, 1:48 am
I live alone with my dad and have since I was a baby. My mom died in a freak accident of sorts and so it's just been me and my dad all of these years. We get along great! The problem is that I started to have my period and I am going to need some pads (my friend gave me a few of hers to get me by for a couple of days). I know I should tell my dad so that he knows about it but I don't know what to say to him that isn't embarrassing for us both. How do I tell my single-father that I've started having periods?
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me and my dad
Posted Sunday March 21 2010, 8:23 pm
okay well i dont really know how to start it off but me and my dad dont really see eye to eye with things. everytime i try to a have a conversation with him it usually ends up with tears and yelling and im just getting really sick of it. i barely even talk to him anymore because i just am tire of fighting and now its affecting my social life to everytime i get into an argument with my friends or other family members i just start cry and im starting to have panic attacks to... i just dont know what to do anymore... please help
Katie
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just met my biological dad after 15 yrs. I'm a girl.
Posted Sunday March 21 2010, 3:05 pm
I just met my biological dad and his son who is my brother i spent a week with them over spring break and we all grew close, now that im back at home (which is 9 hours away from them) i miss them so much i text my biological dad and brother daily telling them i miss them and yes, love them. Now my mom checks my text messages and i guess it hurts her to see that i indeed love them. she gets mad cuz i want to go back home where my bro and bio dad are mainly because my bro has cancer and is going through chemo and i want to be there for him. how do i handle both parents? i hate making my mom feel like shes losing me but shes not, and i am NOT going to stop talking to my bio dad and brother, i just want to know how i can deal with them, my mom ...
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Controlling Parents
Posted Saturday March 20 2010, 12:31 am
16, Female
Last weekend I went to a party, I didn't drink because it was school the next day. I was walking home with my boyfriend and mum had called me and asked where I was. I told her i was almost home, she said that dad was on his way and he wasn't happy. I knew I would be in trouble, and dad would go off at Kieran for being with me.
Turns out instead of going off a Kieran he just left him, to walk home alone. I felt so bad. When we got home dad was yelling at screaming at me, so i just walked away, didn't talk to him for a week after that, it made mum and dad fight I hate doing that to them.
Why are my parents so much more protective than anyone else's?
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Frustration!
Posted Friday March 19 2010, 6:57 pm
Hi there,
I am almost 22 years old! I've lived with my grandparents my whole life, August last year, my grandfather of 58 suddenly passed away. He was an extremely fit and healthy man. It was a very big shock to our family! My Nan is turing 61 soon!
My Nan is not coping by any means of the loss of her life partner! It is still very early days and I completely understand that!
I have recently broken my ankle and go in for surgery on Monday! I know that my Nan needs to feel her place of being wanted or needed again but at the same time she is smothering me and I feel like I have lost my independance again! She feels the need to do everything for me. I am mobile and can walk, that's not an issue. I...
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moving house
Posted Monday March 15 2010, 10:53 pm
i have wanted to move out to the country ever since i got my 1st horse 5 yrs ago since then i have got another i live with my young grandad and nanna and my mum. my grandad and i are certain we want to live out there andmy mum dosnt mind but my nanna manages to find 1 problem with every house that we look out even when there isnt one i even go to a school where i only have to go twice a week if the house is far out in the country we are looking a getting another horse and we have 6 other animals i would appreciate your help thanks is there any way of convincing her or should we leave it?
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family tree
Posted Monday March 15 2010, 1:04 pm
is there any way i could trace back my family an make some sort of family tree but i mean on the internet ? thanks
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sister has aspergers...will she ever be normal?
Posted Monday March 15 2010, 12:22 am
i'm a little upset right now. when my little sister had speech problems/delay, we knew something might be wrong with her brain development or functioning of the brain, or whatever. we thought she had autism. but we found out recently it wasn't autism, she has aspergers. she's 14 now, turning 15 in november, but i'm really worried about her future. she's really bright and is the absolute nicest person in the world, she'd never do anything wrong or hurt anyone on purpose. she's very sensitive and cries easily. at school she has friends, but she's homeschooled and goes to school only on fridays. she has no friends in the neighborhood. in her free time, she sits on the computer and watches shows and videos on youtube or paces around in her room...
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Ridiculously controlling grandma.
Posted Sunday March 14 2010, 9:06 pm
I'm 18. In high school. I live with my mom & grandma.
I've been having serious issues with granny lately. She is ALWAYS in my business. And not like typical parenting stuff.
She goes through all of my stuff.
She looks through my notebook, pulls out tests I did poorly on, and bitches to my mom about my grades. (And I'm a damn good student. One 80 isn't going to kill me) She finds dates of upcoming tests and discloses them to my mother as well (who doesn't even care to ask me about them).
If I leave the room, I have to turn my monitor off or she'll read what's on the screen.
If I have a friend over, she comes down every three seconds to see what we're doing.
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Fight between my mom and I
Posted Sunday March 14 2010, 9:21 am
So for an English party in school, I asked my mom to make a cake for me. Shes really talented in baking cakes! In school, I was waiting until lunch time so I could pick up the cake my mom made this morning for the party. When I went to pick the cake, I found out that it wasn't wrapped..but it was a box from the store. When I opened it, I noticed that it was a cake brought from the store! Just a plan cake which is very common around here. I don't really like those cakes. I got very angry.. and questions kept running in my mind "why didn't my mom make the cake? and why did she bring this crappy one?" I got tears in my eyes. Even though I got a cake, I knew people wouldn't like it. So during the party...guess what happened? NO ONE....
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Should I forgive my dad?
Posted Friday March 12 2010, 11:56 pm
I'm going to try to keep this from getting too long, but I don't know if that is possible! I'm 20 years old, in school and working while living with my mom. My parents just got divorced in January. My dad cheated on my mom with two different women- both were ongoing affairs and he is still seeing the last woman. My mom has been with him since she was 16 and is devistated. My dad was not involved in my life while I was growing up. He didn't show any interest in me and was very verbally abusive. Now that he is divorced, he sees what he lost and now is trying to be a part of my life. I appreciate it... however, I'm just so incredibly disgusted by him and seeing my mom so upset and depressed really makes me resent him. I don't know how to move ...
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my sisterr =[
Posted Friday March 12 2010, 1:08 am
i love my sister so much its unbelievable... its just that she is sooo mean to me. But when ever i try to be mean back shes just laughs and i feel really bad. Im so nice to her, like i respect her and do whatever she asks... but then she uses me and rats me out for everything! She even makes fun of me in public and i get really embarrased!!! I dont know what to do or the say but it really hurts me to be pushed around like this. She is older than me and is going to college next year. Im gonna miss her soo much.
i just need sum advice to not feel guilty and not be hurt by everything she says.
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My parents don't know I joined the Army... How do I tell them?
Posted Thursday March 11 2010, 9:20 pm
18/m lives in Ohio
With in a year i will be going to boot camp, I have a good family friend who died in Afgahnistan. He was a marine, but i know thats where the airborne are. My parents are very fearful of anyone trying to join up. My sister thought about it and my parents flipped shit even though she just wanted to sign up for the navy. I thought they were going to lock her in her room for life, but I already signed and its set in stone that im going... how do i break the news to them without them going nuts?
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My father's attitude
Posted Monday March 8 2010, 9:58 pm
My father's attitude towards me is very negative i
feel like whenever i talk to him he makes negative
comments about me almost as if i'm not good enough it doesn't make me feel very good is there anything
i can do to stop this from happening?
Thank you
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Stressed out, little hope
Posted Monday March 8 2010, 9:51 pm
Hi,
Long story short.. my parents are divorced, I live with my mom whom I do not get along with. I would rather live by myself (not with my dad cuz that would create more conflict with my mom), but just in my own house with myself. I have had kidney failure my whole life so I have to visit the doctor a fair bit.
I've had my share of bad days. I only ever had one true friend.. that ended up using me for my brother. My mom likes this betrayer more than me and she treats my younger sister as the daughter she never had. (theres only two girls, my younger sister and I).
I am in grade 12 and I am trying so hard to make it through my classes and my life, but with all the stress of my mom, my older ass...
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